“The good news is that the moment you decide that what you know is more important than what you have been taught to believe, you will have shifted gears in your quest for abundance. Success comes from within, not from without.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson
Mind is more powerful than we think. In my last post Mind it we discussed how it manages all resources and it plays a very important part in making us successful in any task or challenges we face. Mind is also the place where everything is created first before it takes form in the world.
We want to believe in all this and we want to make our mind strong and positive so it can help us live a happy and successful life but we still behave as if we are its worst enemies.
We abuse our mind with the worst thoughts we can think and make it week. Worst we create so many negativity in our thoughts that we fail to appreciate any good around us. How do we do this? I have tried to list 5 thinking habits that weaken our mind and push us away from a positive life. I am sure there are more and I would love to know so I can avoid them; I request you to share if you know any.
1. Magnifying Problems: We tend to magnify any problem in our life. “It is end of the world” or “the sky is falling” or “my life is over” kind of attitude makes the problem look bigger than it actually is and scares us to think for a solution. The end result is a delay to get the problem fixed and it does grow just as we thought. Remember the situation develops as per our thought. So it makes sense to try to minimize the magnitude of the problem in our mind.
“If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.” ― Dalai Lama XIV
2. Jumping to Conclusion: Creating a negative conclusion in Mind before the situation concludes will hardly disappoint you.
“Can you look without the voice in your head commenting, drawing conclusions, comparing, or trying to figure something out?” — Eckhart Tolle (A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose)
3. Victimizing Mentality: “Why Me?”; “This always happens to me?”; sounds familiar. Building a self image as a victim is a straight way to develop Victimizing Mentality. We may get lots of sympathy from this attitude but the problems will only increase as we attract more of it. Everybody has to face some or the other problem we should not just focus and highlight our own problems as they are clearly visible to us. Plus a person with this attitude is rarely liked by others.
“I can choose either to be a victim of the world or an adventurer in search of treasure. It’s all a question of how I view my life.” — Paulo Coelho (Eleven Minutes)
4. Disqualifying the Good: I have a friend who has beautiful skin and great figure but though people praise her she makes negative comments like; “but I think I have got fatter than earlier.” Or “she will stare at the mirror at one tiny almost invisible spot and make it sound huge.” The attitude of not acknowledging the good and looking for bad in everything is bad as we tend to find what we are looking for. If you keep calling yourself fat you will become fat. Thoughts become reality… Period.
“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” ― Margaret Wolfe Hamilton Hungerford
5. Being Judgmental: We tend to give nick names or put a tag on people as per their habits or nature or the cruelest one their looks. Judging everyone else but ourselves is very easy but it can create bitterness in relationships and restrict our mind from creating positive thoughts that can develop us with help of that relationship.
“Even god doesn’t propose to judge a man till his last days, why should you and I?” ― Dale Carnegie