In “7 Mind Traps That Steal Our Happiness – Trap 1. What Other People Think About Me?” the first part of this series we discussed about giving people control over our mind and the unnecessary burden of their opinion in this part of the series lets discuss how worry steal a big part of our happiness.
Let’s just imagine the creator gave us all our life time of happiness in some kind of container. The happiness in that container is all we got and if we lose any of it is our loss. How do you think we will handle this container? We will guard it with our life, won’t we? The fine print that comes with this divine happiness container reads that whenever we worry a small hole gets drilled at the bottom of the container and happiness starts to leak out. Will this change our habit of worrying about everything under the sun? I bet it will. Here’s a secret we do leak away happiness when we worry so let’s not fall for this mind trap.
I am not a big fan of horror movies. I used to watch scary stuff when I was a child but lost interest in recent past. This has a lot to do with my over active and creative imagination. I don’t know how but my mind makes sure to remind me of the scariest scene of some random horror movie at the worst possible moment. Like when I am home alone and for some strange reason the power goes out and my phone’s battery is about to die. Please don’t laugh it really scares me when my mind reminds me of those bloody deadly faces and howling noises.
The reason for disclosing this embarrassing secret is because I feel worrying is like watching a horror movie in our mind and we are the writer and director of that movie. When we worry we think about something bad happening to us or our loved ones. We imagine the situation taking turn to the worst and keep replying it in our mind.
“If things start happening, don’t worry, don’t stew, just go right along and you’ll start happening too.” — Dr. Seuss
By worrying we torture our mind. Worrying drains our energy. If something bad does happen we cannot face the situation with our full potential as we lose our energy and thinking ability by worrying.
But isn’t worrying completely natural? Of course it is. Human beings are emotional creatures. We cannot help when it comes to worrying about people we love. But let me ask you this one question; “Would you prefer to be strong or weak when disaster strikes?”
The time we spend on worrying will make all the difference. Everyone goes through an emotional roller coaster ride when we sense a dangerous situation. Rather than worrying till you go breathless it makes sense to calm your mind down. Stop all the negative talks, thoughts, and mental images and focus on the positive aspect of the situation. Here I am talking about the situation before we face a challenge or a difficult incident. I am talking about jumping to the worst possible conclusion.
“If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.” — Dalai Lama XIV.
Stopping a train of thoughts is not easy but is definitely not impossible. With help of meditation and creative visualization we can learn to channelize our thoughts from negative to positive. This needs time and patience. Daily practice will eventually make it possible for us to stop negative thoughts from draining our energy.
“Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, but only saps today of its strength.” — A.J. Cronin
A situation can either go bad or not that means there is only 50% chance that things will go wrong. So half the time we worry we lose a big part of our happiness for absolutely nothing. We create an imaginary hell in our mind and scare ourselves for absolutely nothing.
If like me you are a believer of Law of Attraction then you would agree that worrying should be completely avoided. As per Law of Attraction your thoughts become your reality hence one should stay away from all negative thoughts and images.
A calmer mind can think straight so when a situation does take turn to the worst we can act like the surviving hero of the horror movie and save us and our loved ones.