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Create A Better Tomorrow with Pre-Sleep Visualization

Pre Sleep Visualization

Pre-Sleep Visualisation

Recently there has been a lot of talk about what you do right after you wake up. I also have three posts on the morning and night rituals (Creative Visualisation – Why I do it? and 3 Mistakes you are probably making while you Pray).

So why I am dedicating a whole post to Pre-Sleep Visualisation Exercise?

It is because I believe this is the most crucial part of the day. Our subconscious mind is most absorbing when we sleep or when we are in a relaxed mode.

“Everything you can imagine is real.” Pablo Picasso

If you have seen a hypnotist at work, you would have noticed that the first thing the hypnotist do is relax the person he wants to hypnotize. He sends him into deep relaxation or sleep mode before he gives him instructions. A learned hypnotist can do wonders at this stage. He can remove fears or deep-seated habits or addictions like smoking. He can make the person confident or even enhance any skills in this semi conscience mode.

“Almost all people are hypnotics. The proper authority saw to it that the proper belief should be induced, and the people believed properly.” Charles Fort

We get to this semi conscious; open to instructions and most absorbing stage just before we go to sleep every night. What we think just before we sleep is very crucial to shape our lives.

Most of us either think of things that went wrong that day or things that may go wrong the next day. Our subconscious mind absorbs all this and marinate in that thought for the whole night before we know it that negative thought becomes a reality in our life.

“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.” Theodore Roosevelt

Following trick may sound childish but it is a very powerful way to remember the pre-sleep visualisation exercise.

Imagine that after you sleep some angel comes and take notes of the last words you were thinking and seals those word for your future i.e. for your life. This angle does not check if it is positive thought or a negative one. It just seals our faith with our thoughts. In short, we are predicting our own future with whatever we are imaging in our mind.

Now if this really happens would you ever think, “I hate my life”; or “This never works out for me” or “Nobody loves me” or any other negative thought

or would you rather use this crucial time to think positive thoughts like;

“I am well,”
“I am content,”
“I am lucky,”
“I am rich,”
“I am strong,”
“I am beautiful,”
“I am blessed with a wonderful family,”
“I am blessed ….;”

Think about it, give it a try. After you say your prayers, count your blessings and kiss your loved ones good night think about positive affirmations or quotes and feel them as a part of your life. Give it a try you have nothing to lose. If it works out let us know.

“It is never too late to be what you might have been.” George Eliot

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5 Easy Habits to Introduce the Magic of Appreciation in Life.

 

5 Easy Habits to Introduce the Magic of Appreciation in your Life.

5 Habits of Appreciation.

Here goes a small tale I heard from a learned speaker trying to teach her audience about appreciation:

“A husband returns home from work to find his wife sitting on couch digging in a big bag of chips while watching TV, the house was a mess and his usually dolled up wife matched the house in appearance. She was still in her night cloths with messed up hair and a pile of home delivered food’s empty containers lied on the coffee table in front of the couch. His emotions changed from stunned, angered and then worried within minutes. He went close to his wife and holding her hand he asked in a lowered volume, “what happened? Is everything fine?” She gave him a smile and calmly said “nothing.”

He went in the kitchen and saw there was no dinner prepared and the sink was overflowing with dirty dishes, he went to the bedroom and saw the bed still not made up. Laundry laying here and there, even his wet towel which he threw on the bed in the morning dried there itself. He rushed back to his wife and now with a firm voice he asked again, “Please tell me what’s the matter?” His wife gave him a sweet smile and replied “Nothing dear everyday you ask me, “what the hell you do whole day long?” So I did nothing today.”

Conclusion:

I hope the husband learned the lesson but don’t we do the same. Don’t we always take people close to us for granted? How many times do we appreciate our loved ones? Our spouse or children or parents or siblings or friends or anyone who we depend upon? we don’t realise the importance of their presence in our life. Why don’t we appreciate the people in our life? Saying a simple thank you can be more powerful than we realise.

I do most of the cooking at home. When my busy husband takes out time to cook anything I appreciate it till he blushes. It’s not at all about the food he cooks or the work he puts into it but the thought that counts the most for me. As a result he loves making more of these crazy experimental dishes for us. He puts his heart and soul in them because he knows his efforts are not only recognised but also appreciated. The result as you guessed right is always great food plus amazing quality time in the kitchen together.

Don’t get me wrong it’s not about getting work done from your spouse plan, showing your love for each other by doing something different and special together makes the life worth celebrating. In that couple of hours we forget the daily grind and enjoy the present that means not thinking about the past or worrying about the future.

“The talent for being happy is appreciating and liking what you have, instead of what you don’t have.” ~ Woody Allen.

We are the happiest when we Live in the Present. It may feel hard to spend most of our time in the present as we are used to think about our past or worry about future. We need to reprogram our mind to appreciate more and complain less. It is easy to tame your mind into a very beneficial positive appreciation habits using any or all below mentioned methods. I gathered following tricks from many influential books like The Power of Appreciation, Creative Visualization.

5 Habits of Appreciation:

1. Appreciation Prayer: Like me if you are one of those who pray, this will be the easiest way for you to start your appreciation habit. Just after your daily prayer, Thank God for something big or small. Feel grateful. It can be a single thing or a list of things. You will soon see the difference and get a feel of your prayers being answered.
2. Appreciation Diary: This can be the old school actual diary as many of us grew up writing in or the latest digital version in our computers or smart phones. Maintaining a diary is fun. We can document all our achievements big or small and when we need encouragement just going through this diary is bound to lift our spirits and help us create more reasons to write in that diary.
3. Appreciation Object: If you have read or watch “The Secret” you will immediately know what I am talking about for those who haven’t yet I would love to expand on this. An appreciation object is anything you can carry with you daily in your pocket that can remind you to be grateful of everything in your life. It can be a small rock, toy, marble, or anything small enough to carry and unique enough that you will remember its purpose. Whenever you touch it say thank you for something in your life…simple.
4. Appreciation before or after sleep: Just like appreciation prayer counting your blessing before or after your sleep can be a sure shot way to have a positive and productive day ahead. Plus it is far interesting then counting sheep. 
5. Appreciation as and when required: Saying thank you at the right time for the right reason can help not only in your work but personal life as well. So never miss an opportunity to say thank you. It is very important that these thanks are genuine and not just a formality. It will make the other person feel good and the relationship will only benefit from a good heartfelt thank you.

“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more.” – Oprah Winfrey

So how have you introduce the power of Appreciation in your life?

How to Acquire The Mentality of Successful People

In my last post 5 Life Lessons from Art Of Living Happiness Program I wrote about the 5 life lessons that are taught in the 6 days course. Besides these 5 points we discussed many topics on mind and spirituality.

How to Acquire The Mentality of Successful People

How to Acquire The Mentality of Successful People

In this post I want to share about the life lesson that affected me the most. This lesson is different than the one mentioned in the last post. The class discussed a topic that helped me analyze a self-sabotaging habit I needed to change immediately.

“You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of.” ― Jim Rohn

Whom do we hold responsible for the difficulties in our life?

If something goes wrong, whom do we blame?

If we are not reaching our target, whom do we hold accountable?

The answer to the above questions is – someone who is closest to us. Our parents or spouse. Mostly it is someone we love

It is always easier to blame someone else for our inability. Most of us instantly blame others when things do not go as per our plan. This habit of blaming others is common with people who have a Victim Mentality.

“Attack the evil that is within yourself, rather than attacking the evil that is in others.” ― Confucius

Mentality Type 1: Victim Mentality

Someone with Victim Mentality finds comfort in throwing the blame on others. It saves there mind from feeling any pressure after facing a failure or loss. This is a very addictive and harmful habit where the person enjoys pretending to be a Victim while putting a lot of stress on someone else. This creates bitterness in relationships and the blamer loses most of their energy on an unrewarding habit.

End Result–> a couple or more unhappy failures struggling together.

To know about how to deal with these kind of difficult people do read

Dealing with Difficult People – Complainer / Whiner Part 1

and

Dealing with Difficult People – Complainer / Whiner Part 2

Mentality Type 2: Culprit Mentality

The second Mentality is of those whose reaction to every failed situation is to drawn in self-pity and self-blaming. The people with this mentality feel guilty about their circumstances and consider themselves unlucky. They believe they do not deserve success and any good thing they have will be taken away from them.

End Result–> a sad person who has given up trying for any kind success and is willing to accept failure as his fate.

“If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of your trouble, you wouldn’t sit for a month.” ― Theodore Roosevelt

Mentality Type 3: Witness or Success Mentality

Witness or Success Mentality is only mentality that can lead us to a successful life. Being a Witness in your own life is a very practical concept that helps us face any situation or challenges.

As per this success mentality, one must observe the situation as an outsider or a witness. This helps us to understand the facts about the challenge and we get over the emotional angle that affects our decisions.

When we pretend to be an witness to the situation we can see the bigger picture and think about the challenge from multiple viewpoints. A Witness Mentality person takes responsibilities for his actions and takes charge of their dreams and goals. As they do not blame self or others, they use their whole energy towards achieving their goals.

End Result–> a determined person who is in charge of his life, who is striving to fulfil his goals, while utilising his full energy to become successful.

How to Acquire The Mentality of Successful People

Step 1: Immediately STOP the blaming habit. Do not blame self or others for any situations or failures.

Step 2: Accept the circumstances and challenges as it is and respond to them as an outsider.

Step 3: Take complete RESPONSIBILITY for any failure or goals that you desire to achieve. By taking responsibility, you keep your whole power with yourself.

Step 4: Observing as a witness advice and encourage self to achieve a goal. Keep the emotions aside and think practically how you can get what you want in the shortest time or easiest way.

Step 5: Keep reminding self by repeating affirmations as

“I am responsible for my life”
“I am responsible for my achievements”
“I am responsible for my Success”
“I am responsible for my Happiness”
“I am responsible for my Health”

“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.” ― Eleanor Roosevelt

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Dealing with Difficult People – Complainer/ Whiner (Part 2)

My post on Dealing with Difficult People – Complainer/ Whiner (Part 1) talks about the challenges one has to face when a loved one is a chronic complainer. This emotionally challenging problem can be cured with tough love and some patience. I have also mentioned a simple but effective remedy to get rid of this annoying habit and turning yourself into a happy and positive person.

Dealing with Difficult People – Complainer/ Whiner (Part 2)

Dealing with Difficult People – Complainer/ Whiner (Part 2)

In Part 2 let’s see the other category of complainers:

2. Everyone else:

In this category you can put everyone other complainer you know other than the people close to your heart. In this category you can consider a complainer you work with or a neighbor or some distant relative we cannot get rid off or just a person you once met and somehow he/ she stuck with you. In short anyone you can live without.

The squeaking wheel doesn’t always get the grease. Sometimes it gets replaced.

Dealing with this category is simple as we are not emotionally involved with them. If you have to deal with a chronic complainer in this category you need to learn to give some firm replies to him/ her.

Whenever that person starts complaining don’t just be a passive listener. Try to understand what they are talking about; perhaps you can help them find a solution by asking simple questions like; “Oh! So what are you going to do about it?” or “How are you going to solve this problem?”

. How to identify a chronic complainer?

A chronic complainer is more interested in whining about an issue than to solve it. Till now you may have been a good listener to his/ her series of complains and this is precisely why the chronic complainer chooses you to vent out the huge negative flow of constant complaining.

“Say and do something positive that will help the situation; it doesn’t take any brains to complain.” -Robert A. Cook

Especially in the work place never agree with the complains the complainer is making not even by nodding your head unless you feel the same way; as the complainer can take the liberty to inform everyone else about your agreement and support to his/ her complains.

While the complainer is going on and on like a broken record and you cannot avoid him/ her just interrupt the conversation with sentences like; “I had no idea.” Or “Things don’t look so bad.” Or “Wow; is there anything positive about it?” Or “Sounds like you completely understood the problem, so what solutions have you thought about it?”

“Do not listen to those who weep and complain, for their disease is contagious.” – Og Mandino (author of The Greatest Salesman in the World)

This will come as a complete surprise to the complainer and as the complainer is more interested in the complains he/ she will not like your replies and questions. Gradually the complainer will stop considering you as his/ her chosen listener and you will find the peace and quiet you truly deserve.

“When you consistently maintain a positive frame of mind, you’ll become known as a problem-solver rather than a complainer. People avoid complainers. They seek out problem-solvers.” – Joseph Sommerville (author of Rainmaking Presentations)

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Paulo Coelho’s ‘The Alchemist’ Reminds me to Listen to My Heart

The Alchemist

Paulo Coelho’s ‘The Alchemist’

I have read mixed reviews about Paulo Coelho’s most famous novel “The Alchemist” some call it life changing while others find it too simple. For me it is a very much needed reminder to listen to my .

Today we are too busy planning big tasks and conquering battles in every field of our life. Work life balance is become our biggest fantasy or something that has lost its way in the past. In our crazy hectic schedule were very duty is performed like an impossible mission a smooth read like “The Alchemist” takes us on a journey to find the treasure of our life.

It forces us to calm down and look around for messages from the higher self mentioned in the book as omens. We are too busy to run like a hamster on its wheel whole day 5 or 6 days a week and the rest days at the end of the week are spent to regain the energy to fight the never ending war next week then next and so on.

“Remember that wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure.” — Paulo Coelho (The Alchemist)

Paulo Coelho reminds us to understand where our heart is. What is it longing for? In what does it feel happiness? Where ever your heart takes you, you will find your treasure. This can be actual in form of wealth, relationship, happiness or anything that you earn after finding your calling and respecting your heart’s cravings. Find a peaceful place, stay calm, breath very slowly and deeply, close your eyes and try to quite your mind. Now try to listen to your heart. What do you think it is interested in? What gives it immense happiness and satisfaction? I am sure you know it till now but if you are confused a meditation exercise can help.

“Don’t give in to your fears. If you do, you won’t be able to talk to your heart.” — Paulo Coelho (The Alchemist)

Most of us cannot follow our heart because of fear. Fear of failing or fear of disappointing others, fear of the unknown or fear of moving out of our comfort zone. As a part of being a grownup we lose our child like curiosity, our sense of adventure, become restless and get scared of dreaming big.

As a grownup we try to fit in the surrounding and try to follow some rules even if they do not benefit us. When we suppress our heart desires for a long time it stops communicating with us. Our heart is our only source to connect with the higher self or the wisdom that runs the whole universe. Don’t suppress its voice to make someone else happy.
Your calling or interest is a big part of your destiny. Understand the language of your heart and something magical will happen. Life will become smoother and sweeter. The resistance you face in your daily grind will become weaker making it easier for you to enjoy the journey called life.

“Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams, because every second of the search is a second’s encounter with God and with eternity.” — Paulo Coelho (The Alchemist)

If you are looking for a way to connect to your heart’s desire this book can help you by taking you on a journey you will never forget. You want to go on that adventure again and again and who knows may be it will encourage you to find your own adventure.

Mantra for Success – Determination and 3 Steps to Get Determined About Any Desire.

Mantra for Success

Mantra for Success

Birthdays are full of mixed emotions on one hand it’s a celebration on the other it is a realization that we spent one more year of our life. I celebrated my birthday recently and had set some high goals for me to achieve on my lucky day of the year. Things didn’t go as planned and that couldn’t complete my task in time.

I always set high goals or targets and try my best to achieve them. This time some pieces didn’t fall into their place. Am I upset? Well, not anymore but I did learn a lesson. A loud and clear one – “Determination.” This is going to be my mantra for the year.

A determined person sets his mind on the goal and focuses on it like an obsession till s/he achieves it. I confess I lacked determination and hence couldn’t achieve what I planned. This year I want to change the situation. I want to start early, dream big and give all I got to achieve that crazy massive desire I dangle in front of myself.

If you are willing to get on the determination train with me I’ll suggest get a nice role model you can get encouragement from. Someone who has achieved something difficult with sheer will and focus, someone you know personally, someone who can be a positive influence on your journey to achieve a big dream.

“The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack in will.” — Vince Lombardi

My role model is my little sister. Yes it sounds strange to have a younger sibling as a role model but she is an amazing person who can achieve anything she sets her heart to. That’s one person I personally know and admire for her determination.

After some reading I came up with a 3 steps plan to stay on the track to fulfil my goals. Everyone struggles with their journey and these 3 steps can help us get determined about our desires.

Step 1: Clarity:

Where do you want to go? What do you want to achieve? Is that your real desire? Is it achievable? Will that make you happy or fulfilled?

It is important to know the destination before we step out on the journey. Before setting a goal please make sure you answer few questions about it. You do not want to get discouraged half way down the road or worst reach the goal and then realize you did not want that. It is very important that you be true to yourself while trying to achieve a desire. This is something extremely personal. Please do not try to achieve something you are not interested in and just because you want to please someone else. This hardly works.

Clarity is the first step to achieve any goal personal or professional. Any hazy desire just remains a dream. If you want to lose weight; be clear of your ideal healthy weight. Ask an expert about how much your healthy weight should be rather than just comparing yourself to a size zero supermodel.

Being clear gives us a solid goal, a definite destination, something that feels more real more achievable and not just a foggy dream.

Step 2: Cut:

One cannot make changes without changing something we do on a daily basis. Our habits make us what we are. Cutting out bad habits is the second step to stay determined about your goal. We all have bad habits we indulge in things that are harmful to us. We waste our time and energy on things that are not important to us and definitely not important to our desires. Cutting out negative habits and replacing them with positive one is a sure short way to achieve any goal. For example instead of spending an hour on some mindless TV show walking for an hour can help us lose weight so much faster or if that show is something you cannot give up why not do light floor exercises in front of your TV while watching that show.

In this step we should also cut negative people from our life. All the negative people who make our dreams sound impossible. Who makes our journey more challenging than it already is. Who call us crazy for thinking big. Who tells us that we can’t achieve something great. Negative energy from these people can create obstacles in our path. They can bring down our energy.

It is highly advisable to stay away from these people. Avoid them if you cannot physically go away from them then do not let them affect your emotions. Do not argue with them or explain your desires to them. They will never understand and always remember it is not about you. They believe you cannot achieve something great because they cannot achieve it and it makes them jealous to see you try. If you understand this you will know they are upset with themselves and are focusing their anger towards you. If you stay focused on your goal nothing they say or do will affect you.

Step 3. Color:

This is my favorite step. Giving some color to your determination. What does that mean? It means using your creative side of the brain. Imagining your desire or visualizing yourself after you have already achieved your goal. How do you look? How do you feel? How happy are you? What are you doing to celebrate that achievement of your? Are you buying something expensive? Are you going on a holiday with the love of your life? Are you wearing your dream outfit?

I recommend everyone to draw a picture of your desire. Draw yourself after achieving the dream. Get creative, let your inner child go crazy, sketch your dream, fill it with colors have fun. This should be fun not a chore. You are doing this for yourself so be real with it. You don’t have to be an artist for this. Draw just for fun. No one else needs to see this so go crazy with the images and colors.

This step is important as our brain thinks in images. If I say the word ‘APPLE’ you will see a big red juicy apple in your mind not the word or spelling. To make sure our subconscious mind gets on board with our goal draw a picture and give your brain the clear idea of what we are trying to achieve.

Clarity, Cut and Color are used to measure the worth of a diamond. I used them to make my 3 steps because I think we need to make our determination as strong as a diamond to achieve our life’s big goals. Diamonds are chunks of coals that did amazing under pressure. If you are facing pressure in life you should be thankful as it an opportunity to shine.

I am highly grateful for all my struggles and challenges as they have made me more creative and adaptive. I believe in myself more as I stand stronger in front of all the challenges and I believe in the higher powers presence in my life as it has more than once given me a nudge in the right direction.

Stay strong, Stay focused and remember the mantra for success – Determination.

“It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.” — Leonardo da Vinci

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