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How to Acquire The Mentality of Successful People

In my last post 5 Life Lessons from Art Of Living Happiness Program I wrote about the 5 life lessons that are taught in the 6 days course. Besides these 5 points we discussed many topics on mind and spirituality.

How to Acquire The Mentality of Successful People

How to Acquire The Mentality of Successful People

In this post I want to share about the life lesson that affected me the most. This lesson is different than the one mentioned in the last post. The class discussed a topic that helped me analyze a self-sabotaging habit I needed to change immediately.

“You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of.” ― Jim Rohn

Whom do we hold responsible for the difficulties in our life?

If something goes wrong, whom do we blame?

If we are not reaching our target, whom do we hold accountable?

The answer to the above questions is – someone who is closest to us. Our parents or spouse. Mostly it is someone we love

It is always easier to blame someone else for our inability. Most of us instantly blame others when things do not go as per our plan. This habit of blaming others is common with people who have a Victim Mentality.

“Attack the evil that is within yourself, rather than attacking the evil that is in others.” ― Confucius

Mentality Type 1: Victim Mentality

Someone with Victim Mentality finds comfort in throwing the blame on others. It saves there mind from feeling any pressure after facing a failure or loss. This is a very addictive and harmful habit where the person enjoys pretending to be a Victim while putting a lot of stress on someone else. This creates bitterness in relationships and the blamer loses most of their energy on an unrewarding habit.

End Result–> a couple or more unhappy failures struggling together.

To know about how to deal with these kind of difficult people do read

Dealing with Difficult People – Complainer / Whiner Part 1

and

Dealing with Difficult People – Complainer / Whiner Part 2

Mentality Type 2: Culprit Mentality

The second Mentality is of those whose reaction to every failed situation is to drawn in self-pity and self-blaming. The people with this mentality feel guilty about their circumstances and consider themselves unlucky. They believe they do not deserve success and any good thing they have will be taken away from them.

End Result–> a sad person who has given up trying for any kind success and is willing to accept failure as his fate.

“If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of your trouble, you wouldn’t sit for a month.” ― Theodore Roosevelt

Mentality Type 3: Witness or Success Mentality

Witness or Success Mentality is only mentality that can lead us to a successful life. Being a Witness in your own life is a very practical concept that helps us face any situation or challenges.

As per this success mentality, one must observe the situation as an outsider or a witness. This helps us to understand the facts about the challenge and we get over the emotional angle that affects our decisions.

When we pretend to be an witness to the situation we can see the bigger picture and think about the challenge from multiple viewpoints. A Witness Mentality person takes responsibilities for his actions and takes charge of their dreams and goals. As they do not blame self or others, they use their whole energy towards achieving their goals.

End Result–> a determined person who is in charge of his life, who is striving to fulfil his goals, while utilising his full energy to become successful.

How to Acquire The Mentality of Successful People

Step 1: Immediately STOP the blaming habit. Do not blame self or others for any situations or failures.

Step 2: Accept the circumstances and challenges as it is and respond to them as an outsider.

Step 3: Take complete RESPONSIBILITY for any failure or goals that you desire to achieve. By taking responsibility, you keep your whole power with yourself.

Step 4: Observing as a witness advice and encourage self to achieve a goal. Keep the emotions aside and think practically how you can get what you want in the shortest time or easiest way.

Step 5: Keep reminding self by repeating affirmations as

“I am responsible for my life”
“I am responsible for my achievements”
“I am responsible for my Success”
“I am responsible for my Happiness”
“I am responsible for my Health”

“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.” ― Eleanor Roosevelt

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Dealing with Difficult People – Complainer/ Whiner (Part 2)

My post on Dealing with Difficult People – Complainer/ Whiner (Part 1) talks about the challenges one has to face when a loved one is a chronic complainer. This emotionally challenging problem can be cured with tough love and some patience. I have also mentioned a simple but effective remedy to get rid of this annoying habit and turning yourself into a happy and positive person.

Dealing with Difficult People – Complainer/ Whiner (Part 2)

Dealing with Difficult People – Complainer/ Whiner (Part 2)

In Part 2 let’s see the other category of complainers:

2. Everyone else:

In this category you can put everyone other complainer you know other than the people close to your heart. In this category you can consider a complainer you work with or a neighbor or some distant relative we cannot get rid off or just a person you once met and somehow he/ she stuck with you. In short anyone you can live without.

The squeaking wheel doesn’t always get the grease. Sometimes it gets replaced.

Dealing with this category is simple as we are not emotionally involved with them. If you have to deal with a chronic complainer in this category you need to learn to give some firm replies to him/ her.

Whenever that person starts complaining don’t just be a passive listener. Try to understand what they are talking about; perhaps you can help them find a solution by asking simple questions like; “Oh! So what are you going to do about it?” or “How are you going to solve this problem?”

. How to identify a chronic complainer?

A chronic complainer is more interested in whining about an issue than to solve it. Till now you may have been a good listener to his/ her series of complains and this is precisely why the chronic complainer chooses you to vent out the huge negative flow of constant complaining.

“Say and do something positive that will help the situation; it doesn’t take any brains to complain.” -Robert A. Cook

Especially in the work place never agree with the complains the complainer is making not even by nodding your head unless you feel the same way; as the complainer can take the liberty to inform everyone else about your agreement and support to his/ her complains.

While the complainer is going on and on like a broken record and you cannot avoid him/ her just interrupt the conversation with sentences like; “I had no idea.” Or “Things don’t look so bad.” Or “Wow; is there anything positive about it?” Or “Sounds like you completely understood the problem, so what solutions have you thought about it?”

“Do not listen to those who weep and complain, for their disease is contagious.” – Og Mandino (author of The Greatest Salesman in the World)

This will come as a complete surprise to the complainer and as the complainer is more interested in the complains he/ she will not like your replies and questions. Gradually the complainer will stop considering you as his/ her chosen listener and you will find the peace and quiet you truly deserve.

“When you consistently maintain a positive frame of mind, you’ll become known as a problem-solver rather than a complainer. People avoid complainers. They seek out problem-solvers.” – Joseph Sommerville (author of Rainmaking Presentations)

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Paulo Coelho’s ‘The Alchemist’ Reminds me to Listen to My Heart

The Alchemist

Paulo Coelho’s ‘The Alchemist’

I have read mixed reviews about Paulo Coelho’s most famous novel “The Alchemist” some call it life changing while others find it too simple. For me it is a very much needed reminder to listen to my .

Today we are too busy planning big tasks and conquering battles in every field of our life. Work life balance is become our biggest fantasy or something that has lost its way in the past. In our crazy hectic schedule were very duty is performed like an impossible mission a smooth read like “The Alchemist” takes us on a journey to find the treasure of our life.

It forces us to calm down and look around for messages from the higher self mentioned in the book as omens. We are too busy to run like a hamster on its wheel whole day 5 or 6 days a week and the rest days at the end of the week are spent to regain the energy to fight the never ending war next week then next and so on.

“Remember that wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure.” — Paulo Coelho (The Alchemist)

Paulo Coelho reminds us to understand where our heart is. What is it longing for? In what does it feel happiness? Where ever your heart takes you, you will find your treasure. This can be actual in form of wealth, relationship, happiness or anything that you earn after finding your calling and respecting your heart’s cravings. Find a peaceful place, stay calm, breath very slowly and deeply, close your eyes and try to quite your mind. Now try to listen to your heart. What do you think it is interested in? What gives it immense happiness and satisfaction? I am sure you know it till now but if you are confused a meditation exercise can help.

“Don’t give in to your fears. If you do, you won’t be able to talk to your heart.” — Paulo Coelho (The Alchemist)

Most of us cannot follow our heart because of fear. Fear of failing or fear of disappointing others, fear of the unknown or fear of moving out of our comfort zone. As a part of being a grownup we lose our child like curiosity, our sense of adventure, become restless and get scared of dreaming big.

As a grownup we try to fit in the surrounding and try to follow some rules even if they do not benefit us. When we suppress our heart desires for a long time it stops communicating with us. Our heart is our only source to connect with the higher self or the wisdom that runs the whole universe. Don’t suppress its voice to make someone else happy.
Your calling or interest is a big part of your destiny. Understand the language of your heart and something magical will happen. Life will become smoother and sweeter. The resistance you face in your daily grind will become weaker making it easier for you to enjoy the journey called life.

“Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams, because every second of the search is a second’s encounter with God and with eternity.” — Paulo Coelho (The Alchemist)

If you are looking for a way to connect to your heart’s desire this book can help you by taking you on a journey you will never forget. You want to go on that adventure again and again and who knows may be it will encourage you to find your own adventure.

Mantra for Success – Determination and 3 Steps to Get Determined About Any Desire.


Mantra for Success – Determination

Mantra for Success – Determination

Birthdays are full of mixed emotions on one hand it’s a celebration on the other it is a realization that we spent one more year of our life. I celebrated my birthday recently and had set some high goals for me to achieve on my lucky day of the year. Things didn’t go as planned and that couldn’t complete my task in time.

I always set high goals or targets and try my best to achieve them. This time some pieces didn’t fall into their place. Am I upset? Well, not anymore but I did learn a lesson. A loud and clear one – “Determination.” This is going to be my mantra for the year.

A determined person sets his mind on the goal and focuses on it like an obsession till s/he achieves it. I confess I lacked determination and hence couldn’t achieve what I planned. This year I want to change the situation. I want to start early, dream big and give all I got to achieve that crazy massive desire I dangle in front of myself.

If you are willing to get on the determination train with me I’ll suggest get a nice role model you can get encouragement from. Someone who has achieved something difficult with sheer will and focus, someone you know personally, someone who can be a positive influence on your journey to achieve a big dream.

“The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack in will.” — Vince Lombardi

My role model is my little sister. Yes it sounds strange to have a younger sibling as a role model but she is an amazing person who can achieve anything she sets her heart to. That’s one person I personally know and admire for her determination.

After some reading I came up with a 3 steps plan to stay on the track to fulfill my goals. Everyone struggles with their journey and these 3 steps can help us get determined about our desires.

Step 1: Clarity:

Where do you want to go? What do you want to achieve? Is that your real desire? Is it achievable? Will that make you happy or fulfilled?

It is important to know the destination before we step out on the journey. Before setting a goal please make sure you answer few questions about it. You do not want to get discouraged half way down the road or worst reach the goal and then realize you did not want that. It is very important that you be true to yourself while trying to achieve a desire. This is something extremely personal. Please do not try to achieve something you are not interested in and just because you want to please someone else. This hardly works.

Clarity is the first step to achieve any goal personal or professional. Any hazy desire just remains a dream. If you want to lose weight; be clear of your ideal healthy weight. Ask an expert about how much your healthy weight should be rather than just comparing yourself to a size zero supermodel.

Being clear gives us a solid goal, a definite destination, something that feels more real more achievable and not just a foggy dream.

Step 2: Cut:

One cannot make changes without changing something we do on a daily basis. Our habits make us what we are. Cutting out bad habits is the second step to stay determined about your goal. We all have bad habits we indulge in things that are harmful to us. We waste our time and energy on things that are not important to us and definitely not important to our desires. Cutting out negative habits and replacing them with positive one is a sure short way to achieve any goal. For example instead of spending an hour on some mindless TV show walking for an hour can help us lose weight so much faster or if that show is something you cannot give up why not do light floor exercises in front of your TV while watching that show.

In this step we should also cut negative people from our life. All the negative people who make our dreams sound impossible. Who makes our journey more challenging than it already is. Who call us crazy for thinking big. Who tells us that we can’t achieve something great. Negative energy from these people can create obstacles in our path. They can bring down our energy.

It is highly advisable to stay away from these people. Avoid them if you cannot physically go away from them then do not let them affect your emotions. Do not argue with them or explain your desires to them. They will never understand and always remember it is not about you. They believe you cannot achieve something great because they cannot achieve it and it makes them jealous to see you try. If you understand this you will know they are upset with themselves and are focusing their anger towards you. If you stay focused on your goal nothing they say or do will affect you.

3. Color:

This is my favorite step. Giving some color to your determination. What does that mean? It means using your creative side of the brain. Imagining your desire or visualizing yourself after you have already achieved your goal. How do you look? How do you feel? How happy are you? What are you doing to celebrate that achievement of your? Are you buying something expensive? Are you going on a holiday with the love of your life? Are you wearing your dream outfit?

I recommend everyone to draw a picture of your desire. Draw yourself after achieving the dream. Get creative, let your inner child go crazy, sketch your dream, fill it with colors have fun. This should be fun not a chore. You are doing this for yourself so be real with it. You don’t have to be an artist for this. Draw just for fun. No one else needs to see this so go crazy with the images and colors.

This step is important as our brain thinks in images. If I say the word ‘APPLE’ you will see a big red juicy apple in your mind not the word or spelling. To make sure our subconscious mind gets on board with our goal draw a picture and give your brain the clear idea of what we are trying to achieve.

Clarity, Cut and Color are used to measure the worth of a diamond. I used them to make my 3 steps because I think we need to make our determination as strong as a diamond to achieve our life’s big goals. Diamonds are chunks of coals that did amazing under pressure. If you are facing pressure in life you should be thankful as it an opportunity to shine.

I am highly grateful for all my struggles and challenges as they have made me more creative and adaptive. I believe in myself more as I stand stronger in front of all the challenges and I believe in the higher powers presence in my life as it has more than once given me a nudge in the right direction.

Stay strong, Stay focused and remember the mantra for success – Determination.

“It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.” — Leonardo da Vinci

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Money Beliefs: Rich Mind vs. Poor Mind


Money Beliefs: Rich Mind vs. Poor Mind

Money Beliefs: Rich Mind vs. Poor Mind

“Bless that which you want. If you see a person with a beautiful home, bless that person and bless that home. If you see a person with a beautiful car, bless that person and bless that car. If you see a person with a loving family, bless that person and bless that family. If you see a person with a beautiful body, bless that person and bless their body.”— T. Harv Eker

What do you feel about the topic of money? Is it something you enjoy talking about or it makes you feel uncomfortable?

I have been reading and listening to life altering books and seminars by T. Harv Eker and would love to share some titbits of knowledge with the readers that are always hungry for knowledge that makes life amazing well in this particular case rich.

Secrets of the Millionaire Mind is one of the best works of T. Harv Eker as I said earlier it can change lives. All we need to do is study our thoughts and feelings about money and we can change our financial condition for good.

Harv like many other success couches teaches us about the power of our mind and how it is controlling everything in our life especially our financial status.

He explains this with a simple example of a tree. The fruits (Money) depend upon the quality of roots (thoughts, emotions, action). When we understand this law of nature a positive shift takes place in our life.

“If you want to change the fruits, you will first have to change the roots. If you want to change the visible, you must first change the invisible.” — T. Harv Eker”

Everything is energy. Money is also energy. In fact money is a result of our Mental, Emotional and Spiritual condition.

Thought leads to Feeling leads to Action which leads to Result.

Let us understand how our thoughts can make us rich or poor. Let us notice the different beliefs of a rich mind and a poor mind. If you are struggling financially may be you need to notice your beliefs and make some healthy changes. I hope the below given examples help you as much as they helped me.

Rich Mind Vs. Poor Mind

Rich Mind Vs. Poor Mind

1) Rich Mind thinks (I create my life) – Vs – Poor Mind thinks (Life happens to me)

A rich mind believes in creating own life with his/her own thoughts and decisions on the other hand the poor mind believes life happens to him/her.

This single belief controls the destiny of our life. If we believe we create our life then we have control to get us out of any unwanted situation by controlling our thoughts, emotions and actions around that situation.

2) Rich Mind thinks (There is no rich victim) – Vs – Poor Mind thinks (Victim: Blame, Justify & Complain)

Rich Minds try to learn a lesson from any adverse situation. They never ever see themselves as a victim.

However Poor Minds enjoy the attention or sympathy they receive from being a victim. They blame everyone and everything else for their troubles, they justify their failures and they complain about everything and everyone.

Harv warns his students against blaming, justifying or complaining. He says; “Whenever one blames, justifies or complains s/he slits his/her financial throat.”

What we focus on expands. Complainers become a giant crap magnet.

Harv suggests his student to take on a challenge – 7 Days without any complains. Miraculous things can happen if you can spend 7 days or more without a single complain about anything. You cannot blame or complain out loud or even in your mind. If you find yourself doing it unconsciously cancel the thought and redirect your mind to something pleasant.

3) Rich Mind thinks (Goal is to get rich) – Vs – Poor Mind thinks (Goal is to get comfortable)

A rich person tries to get or stay rich and he does not care about comfort or convince or if things are difficult.

A poor person looks for easy, comfortable and hopes on getting rich by staying in his comfort zone.

“If you are willing to do only what’s easy, life will be hard. But if you are willing to do what’s hard, life will be easy.” — T. Harv Eker

4) Rich Mind thinks (Play to Win) – Vs – Poor Mind thinks (Play not to Lose)

Every challenge is an opportunity to win for a Rich Mind. On the other hand a Poor Mind steps consciously in a challenge if s/he absolutely has to with a hope that s/he will not lose.

5) Rich Mind thinks (Everything) – Vs – Poor Mind thinks (Either / Or)

A Rich Mind understands that true wealth comes from abundance in all areas of life. S/he strives hard for health, happiness, family, spirituality and all major aspects of live along with wealth.

Conversely, a Poor Mind believes s/he will have to scarify his/her health or relationships or something important if s/he tries to acquire wealth.

6) Rich Mind thinks (Admire & Model) – Vs – Poor Mind thinks (Resent & Envy)

Rich Minds love to be in the company of other successful people. They admire the qualities that make people wealthy. They learn from influential people. They try to model methods of successful people to reach their own goals. They learn from the experiences of others and are a knowledge soaking sponge.

Poor Minds resent successful people. They avoid them and envy them. They try to find fault in them and close their minds towards any wisdom coming from them as they feel inferior to learn from others.

7) Rich Mind thinks (Bigger than their Problem) – Vs – Poor Mind thinks (Smaller than their Problem)

Rich Minds try to make themselves stronger and bigger than any problem they might be facing. They attack their problems armed with knowledge and dedication. They treat problems as stepping stones as they are aware that it is temporary hurdle and overcoming it will help them grow.

Poor Minds complain and make their problems bigger than they actually are. They let fear overcome them. They think about the worst outcome and try to avoid the problem. They give up great opportunities when they face hurdles.

8) Rich Mind thinks (Results) – Vs – Poor Mind thinks (Reasons)

A Rich Mind focuses on results. They are concerned about the goal, the end product of any act. They do not care about the hurdles as they have their eyes set on the final prize.

A Poor Mind focuses on reasons or excuses while trying to achieve any target.

9) Rich Mind thinks (Learn & Grow) – Vs – Poor Mind thinks (Already Knows)

A Rich Mind is constantly willing to learn and grow. A Poor Mind closes itself from anything new. It creates an attitude of already knowing enough and avoids studying.

“Your field of focus determines what you find in life.” — T. Harv Eker

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7 Mind Traps That Steal Our Happiness – Trap 5. Procrastination

“Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone” — Pablo Picasso

Trap 5. Procrastination

Trap 5. Procrastination


We all procrastinate on many things even important things. I think I do it more than others and what’s worse I end up putting the most important things in my life on hold. Procrastination is a bad habit that puts a lot of unnecessary mental strain on us. I always end up regretting about wasted time. I consider this as a very strong mind trap that steals our happiness but the good news is it can be controlled.

“My advice is to never do tomorrow what you can do today. Procrastination is the thief of time.” — Charles Dickens

Brain Tracy’s is one of the most famous success coaches and he talks passionately about time management. To curb my procrastination habit I took help from Brain’s Tracy’s teachings. The ABCDE Method from his book “Eat That Frog” made a significant change in my productivity and in my life. I am sure it will make a big difference for anyone who will give it a try.

Eat That Frog is simply a metaphor for tackling the most challenging task of your day. When you apply this theory all day, every day, you become a veritable power house of productivity. So not only do you have more time to do the things you love with the people you love, but you also become indispensable to your managers and employers.

What is ABCDE Method?

ABCDE Method is a genius way to organize your work or life or both. I think it is genius because it is extremely simple. All great coaches teach very simple tricks but most of these are highly effective.

In school I had a way to mark important questions or portions of my syllabus. I am sure everyone did this in their school days. Whenever the teacher hinted that this question is important or may come in your final exams I would immediately put a mark on it and while studying gave priority to these questions.

“It is easier to resist at the beginning than at the end.” — Leonardo da Vinci

Now when I am juggling responsibilities of work and home I think a trick like this can come handy. ABCDE method is exactly what I needed. As per this method in the beginning of your day make a list of things you want to accomplish that day. Most of us already have a habit of making a to-do list. The ABCDE method can help you prioritize your tasks and control procrastination.

Step 1: Brain Tracy’s tells us to think on paper. Simply put he tells us to keep a record of our ideas or plans or tasks on paper. So making a list is the first step.

Step 2: Organize the tasks by priority. Categories each item on your list into 5 categories as A, B, C, D and E.

Category A –
• The tasks that come in “A” category are your most important tasks,
• These are highly crucial for your work,
• Success or failure of your day or work depends on these tasks,
• These need your attention and you cannot delegate these to anyone else or avoid them,
• Delay in these tasks puts an adverse effect on your performance,
• These have to be done on priority and should be given enough time and attention so that they are done without any delay,
For example: Writing an article for your client, Preparing a report or Meeting your client.

Category B –
• The tasks that come in “B” category are important something that you should do,
• These tasks are not as important as your ‘A’ tasks,
• There are only minor negative consequences if it is not completed,
For example: Sending a thank you mail to your client or colleague.

Category C –
• The tasks that come in “C” category are nice to do tasks something that you should do,
• These tasks are not as important as your ‘A’ or ‘B’ tasks,
• There are no negative consequences for not completing it,
For example: Having lunch with your colleague.

Category D –
• The tasks that come in “D” category are the tasks that can be easily delegated to others,
• You can assign this task to someone else who can do the job instead of you.

Category E –
• The tasks that come in “E” category are the tasks that can be easily eliminated; whenever possible,
• You should eliminate every single unnecessary activity you possibly can, to free up your time.

When you use the A-B-C-D-E method, you can very easily sort out what is important and unimportant. This then will focus your time and attention on those items on your list that are most essential for you to do.

“You may delay, but time will not.” — Benjamin Franklin

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