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10 Steps to Be the Best Version of Yourself – Be the Best You in 2017

We are already 5 days in the New Year and I have seen mixed reactions from people about the year. Some think it makes no difference just the calendar changes nothing new. Other friends who claim to understand or follow numerology consider this to be a far better or to quote my friend easier year than the last. Some have already broken their resolution and some are yet to start with this year’s goals.
Be the Best You in 2017

Be the Best You in 2017

I neither am in favor of the idea of resolution nor am I against it after all, it is a complete personal choice. I do however want to pin some tips to keep myself on the track of self-improvement. Moreover, if my numerologist friend is right I would like to take advantage of the favorable year and try to achieve more this year.

My competition here is with myself. This year I want to be the best version of myself and I feel everyone should strive for the same. Let us motivate, push and help each other achieve more, do something big while being the healthiest and happiest so far. Let us declare 2017 the best year of our lives. The year we make our dreams come true. If you are up for this then I encourage you to consider the 10 steps mentioned below that will help us to Be the Best Version of Ourselves.

Step 1: Everything happens for the reasons:
Whatever happened so far be it good or bad it belongs to the past and we should not try to hold it tightly in our present. Everything was a learning experience and although we cannot see it now it was clearly important in our journey of life. This step helps us get over our most challenging experiences.

“I’ve learned that everything happens for a reason,” the yogi Krishnan told him. “Every event has a why and all adversity teaches us a lesson… Never regret your past. Accept it as the teacher that it is.” Robin S. Sharma, The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari

Step 2: Let Go:
We know everything that happened has its importance and it should stay in the past so letting go comes easily after we complete the first step. Easy said than done but once we stop dragging unwanted memories we slowly make ourselves free of the emotional baggage that holds us back.

“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.” Marilyn Monroe

Step 3: Forgiveness:
Currently I am studying the art of forgiveness and it has changed my perception to look at others. This step needs a full article and I will write it after I research and experiment with this concept. Forgiveness is not for others it is for our own peace of mind. By forgiving, we break the bond we create with an unpleasant incident. By forgiving, we make sure that we do not deal with similar unfavorable incident or person again.

“Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much.” Oscar Wilde

Step 4: Take Responsibility:
To make this year our best year so far we need to take responsibility for everything in our life and our dreams. When we stop blaming others for our shortfall and start owing it, instead we get the necessary power to work on it. When we take responsibility for our own future, we get the clarity to find the right path.

“Take responsibility of your own happiness, never put it in other people’s hands.” Roy T. Bennett

Step 5: Mental Relaxation:
To be our best version this year we need to think straight about our goals and plans. To think straight we need clarity and clarity does not come to a restless mind. Stop the wheels in your mind for a while. Relax the way you enjoy most. Empty all your thoughts and give your mind a much-needed rest. Clarity is the First Step towards Success

“Our minds must relax: they will rise better and keener after a rest. Just as you must not force fertile farmland, as uninterrupted productivity will soon exhaust it, so constant effort will sap our mental vigour, while a short period of rest and relaxation will restore our powers.” Seneca, On the Shortness of Life

Step 6: Avoid Drama:
I have written articles on how to avoid difficult people who enjoy drama and confusion. These kinds of people will keep you away from achieving any of your goals. They will drain your energy and waste your time. It is always better to be wise while dealing with drama in our life. You can read some tricks to handle these in Dealing with Difficult People – Complainer/ Whiner (Part 2)

“Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama.” Miguel Ruiz

Step 7: Life is fun:
Dreams and goals are important but so is the journey we call life. Once you complete the above steps, you will feel light and energetic. You will experience doing more in lesser time. Until now, we have taken necessary measures to make us emotionally strong. Now let us enjoy our life and live everyday of 2017 to its fullest. Being classy! – A Funny Incident Post

“Take hold of your own life. See that the whole existence is celebrating. These trees are not serious, these birds are not serious. The rivers and the oceans are wild, and everywhere there is fun, everywhere there is joy and delight. Watch existence, listen to the existence and become part of it.” Osho

Step 8: Dream Big:
We are enjoying our lives and living every day to its fullest. This gives us the confidence to strive for our wildest desires. Why shouldn’t we try to achieve something big, something others consider impossible? Now that we are taking responsibility for our own future then let us dream big. Aim for something that is big enough to scare you. Bring out your inner most desires may be this is the year you will get close to achieve it or actually achieve it. We would never know until we try. How to Acquire The Mentality of Successful People

“Never give up on what you really want to do. The person with big dreams is more powerful than one with all the facts.” H. Jackson Brown Jr.

Step 9: Take Action:
We have left our past where it belongs, we have dropped our emotional baggage, we have taken responsibility for our future and we have a massive dream. This year already feels like the best year so far. Now let us go one-step ahead and take necessary actions to make our wildest dream come true. Research about how to achieve what you want. Internet is a great source and will help you out. You can read articles, watch YouTube videos or take online courses but make sure you educate yourself so you can take the right action. Read more in Take Action Towards Goal – Lord’s Hanuman’s Teaching About Following One’s Bliss

“Don’t be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

Step 10: Gratitude:
This step is very important for me. Being thankful will open many doors, will help you out in many situations, will earn you a lot of brownie points with the creative power, source energy, Universe or God whatever you call the higher power. Being grateful is a prayer and the more you say it the more reasons you will get to be grateful for. Do not believe me. Give it a try and I guarantee you 2017 will be your best year so far. Read more in Appreciation – 5 easy methods to tame your mind.

“If the only prayer you said was thank you, that would be enough.” Meister Eckhart

Vijaya Dashami – The Day I touched Divine.

Vijaya Dashami – The Day I touched Divine

Vijaya Dashami – The Day I touched Divine

I am not a born Bengali but become a part of this Vibrant and Beautiful community from the day I got married. Actually a decade before that; when I started dating my (now) husband. While dating I did participate in the beautiful culture by attending the Saraswati Puja at the Anandmayi Ashram and getting the divine blessings of Ma Saraswati who has always been generous with her blessings on me. In those college days we feasted like royalty on Durga Puja by attending the multiple Pandals and having the lip smacking Bhog and saving our pocket money to indulge on the Bengali delicacies available in the temporary stalls of the festive Durga Puja Pandals.

I still feel the excitement of a young college girl exploring a new world whenever I step into a pandal. The curiosity to know as much as possible, the concentration required to repeat every word after the pandit at the time of Astami Anjali, uproar of the Shankha, fragrance of the Shiuli Flowers, thump of the Dhak, clouds of incense emitting while a devotee is in a trance of Dhunuchi Naach and all this blending into an immense celebration of the Divine Shakti still gives me the goose bumps like I am experiencing everything for the first time.

I had to wait a decade before I could take part in one ritual that I adore the most. On the last day of Durga Puja which is also known as Vijay Dashmi all the married women get to perform a unique and special ritual.

The women dressed up in the iconic red border Bengali saree and big red bindies; perform the Dashmi Puja by getting close enough to touch, apply sindoor, offer Prasad/sweets to the massive idols of Ma Durga, Ma Lakmi, Ma Saraswati, Lord Kartikey and Lord Ganesh. This has always fascinated me as I have seen huge idols of various Hindu Gods in temples, in Ganesh Chaturti and other festivals but here it is hard enough to reach the idols feet let alone applying Sindoor on forehead and actually feeding the idols sweet with your hands.

Here I do not want to get into the debate about idol worship because as per my hindu upbringing and beliefs touching those beautiful clay idols is as good as touching the Divine Shakti herself.

Last year on Vijay Dashmi, I was standing in the line of women to perform this beautiful ritual. I have a very curious mind and do not hesitate to ask anyone about their take on spirituality.

I summed up all my courage and asked the women ahead of me in the line, “What do you say to Ma when you get so close to her?” I got almost similar answers from most of them as they ask for health and happiness for their family, they ask for success for their husband and children, they ask for help when they need some and as such blessings from the Ma.

I pondered on the thought about what I shall say. I knew I would not get a lot of time in front of the Idol, the line was huge and every lady was getting rushed. I had a list of things I could ask for to Ma but this list is always in my mind so naturally it reflects in my daily prayers. I wanted to use these few beautiful minutes that I get once in a year with the Idol of the Divine, which is full of the positive energy of so many people by expressing my inner most thoughts and prayers.

The moment I got on the podium and close to the Idol of Lord Ganesh my inner most prayer came out of my heart and it was “Thank You”. I kept repeating Thank you constantly. Thank you for this opportunity to express my inner most thoughts for you, thank you for this life and everything you have blessed me with so far and thank you for all the blessings you have lined up for me in the future.

I touched a pinch of Sindoor on the foreheads, hands and feet on all five Idols, I fed them with a morsel of sweet and while doing all this I constantly kept repeating Thank you as a Mantra. I could feel the warmth of the Divine Smile graciously accepting my prayers.

The day I touched Divine and Thanked her for everything – I felt blessed.  

5 Life Lessons from Art Of Living Happiness Program

Those who know me know that I am a student of life that means I like to keep studying about Power of Mind, Spirituality, Positive Thinking, Health and one of my favorite area – Happiness.

AOL Happiness Program

AOL Happiness Program

I zealously take on every chance to grow my knowledge in the topics mentioned above. Recently I got the opportunity to do the Art of Living’s Happiness Course and I am glad I did it. This course highlights some important life lessons that most of us tend to forget in our daily struggles. This is not a religious course as it focuses mainly on the way we react with people or circumstances and its effect on our life.

The course also encourages the habit of daily exercises, Meditation, Yoga and Pranayama. One feels refreshed and recharged while and after this course. The Happiness Course acts as a Mind and Body detox.

“The best form of worship (puja) is to be happy, is to be grateful” – Sri Sri

Initially I was a bit concerned about the time requirement for the course. 6 days 3 hours each felt a little tedious. I was pleasantly surprised that the time flew by during those 6 days. Every morning I got up looking forward to the class and was happy to be an active participant in the program. Both my teachers (Sunil Poddar and Preetam Lunawat) were bustling with energy and joy, they also encouraged us all to stretch our limits be it of our stressful mind or tired body.

“Keeping the mind happy makes work effortless. This is the skill for productivity” – Sri Sri

AOL Happiness Course has taught me to focus on the present it has also taught me to live responsibly. This program teaches 5 main points which I have shared below.

Happiness Point 1: Opposites compliments each other

Without darkness, we cannot appreciate Light. Without Sadness, we would not know happiness. We need to accept and value the bad to appreciate the good. Life is fascinating when it is full of ups and downs. We need to understand that our universe has a beautiful balance of opposites.

Happiness Point 2: Accept people and situation as they are

Do not spend your life reacting to unfavorable situations. Life is going to throw some curve balls and we need to respond to them in a matter that will help others and us in the situation. A panic or angry reaction will only make the situation worst.

Similarly, we tend to compare a person with others that creates a lot of bitterness in relationships. Check out an article about harms of not accepting people as they are 7 Mind Traps that Steal our Happiness Trap 3: Comparison

Happiness Point 3: Don’t be a football of other people’s opinion

People worry a lot about what others say about them and this burden of other people’s opinion forces a person to take some very wrong decisions. I have written a detail article on the mind trap that will help anyone who feels trapped because they cannot ignore other people’s opinion. 7 Mind Traps that Steal our Happiness Trap 1: What other People Think about me

Happiness Point 4: Take Mistake as Mistake

When someone commits a mistake, do not go blaming that person for it. It will create a very negative impression in that person minds but on the other hand if we consider the mistake as mistake the person feels more responsible about his/her actions and would never repeat it.

Happiness Point 5: Stay in the present moment

We should not waste our time thinking about the past to save our mind from painful memories or the future as it puts stress on our mind. Staying in the present helps focus on the actual task at hand.

“When you wake up every morning, look into a mirror and give yourself a good smile. The smile is the sacred gift of life.” – Sri Sri

My next post will be about the life lesson that affected me the most. It is not one of the above-mentioned ones. It is something that was discussed in the class but it captured my attention and helped me analyze a self-sabotaging habit I needed to change immediately. There is a lot I learnt in those six days and I will be sharing it all with you so keep reading and do not forget to comment your views about this or any other article. Thank you for reading. Stay Awesome 🙂

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Everything Is Fair In Love

We are starting year 2016 with some love and laughter.

Everything Is Fair In Love

Everything Is Fair In Love

Riya belonged to a conservative family. Her big dreams were suppressed by her narrow minded relatives and her high ambitious nature was looked as inviting trouble. Riya worked hard to move out of her town and go away from narrow minded people. Even after living in London for ten years she couldn’t overcome her fear of commitment. From a very young age Riya never had any close friends she had a phobia that if she let people get close to her heart they will start putting restriction on her. Her whole life she has just defended herself against people close to her and now when she was thousands of miles away she still felt she will become vulnerable if someone gets close to her. She was scared of being emotionally manipulated and gave most of her time to her Investment Banking career.

Riya’s life was extremely planned and organized. She was always serious and behaved formerly with everyone. Her life turned upside down when another Indian moved in her building. Gautam is a professional nature and wild life photographer and was completely opposite to her. He never planned anything and lived as per his instincts. They got to know each other as they were the only Indians in the building and soon became friends.

Riya felt very comfortable with Gautam. His carefree attitude made her feel relaxed. She never felt any restrictions around him and Gautam on the other hand loved to get Riya’s help to organize his life. They both completed each other and together they both made a strong couple. Soon the friendship blossomed into a loving relationship.

For the first time in her life Riya felt bliss. She was the happiest and was learning to become a more relaxed person. Everything was going great and then something happened that brought out Riya’s commitment issues. Gautam proposed and she felt as if her everything was happening very fast. She panicked and felt as if she is again losing her freedom. She yelled out no and ran away from him. Gautam tried to reach her but she was avoiding him. She loved him but couldn’t control her emotional condition.

Broken hearted Gautam decided to spend some time in India with his family. His family unaware of his emotions suggests him to consider an arrange marriage proposal that they were interested in. Gautam still hurt from the sudden breakup with Riya decides to marry Neha as per his family’s wish.

In London as Riya missed Gautam she started getting back to her senses. She understood she was wrong to behave in such a way with him and wanted to ask for his forgiveness. Riya got an unexpected call from India about Gautam’s wedding. She felt as if a bolt of lightning hit her. The caller informed her that his name is Rajiv and he knew about her relationship with Gautam. He also told her that if she wanted to stop the wedding he can help her.

Riya felt no fear this time she did not needed her organizer to tell her to get to on the next flight to Delhi. She instantly reached Delhi. Rajiv was waiting outside the airport for her. Gautam’s town was two hours drive away from Delhi airport. Riya never sat in an open gypsy jeep before. It was hot, sunny and the air was playing tornado torture with her hair but she didn’t care. Riya was listening to Rajiv’s plan to break up the wedding and get back with the love of her life.

As per Rajiv’s plan she did not contact Gautam and stayed in a hotel in the town. That very night Rajiv managed to get Gautam to the hotel where Riya was staying. Gautam was shocked to see Riya but then Rajiv explained how he contacted her and arranged for their meet so that Gautam can change his mind about the wedding.
Gautam was surprised and happy to see Riya again but was still hurt with her behavior and was not sure if he wanted to continue the relationship with her. Riya pleaded for his forgiveness and told him that she was scared about commitment but now when she got a glimpse of her life without him she was sure that she could not live without him.

Rajiv was happier that the couple and to end the curiosity Gautam says to him. “I am grateful to you for helping me get close to my love; but why are you helping us?” Rajiv smiles and says “Everything is fair in love.” When they both looked confused he explains further; “This is a small town and the people living here are narrow minded. Love marriage is a strict taboo. Before you accepted the marriage proposal you informed Neha about your past relationship and so she found out about Riya. That’s how I came to know about her and with help of bit of research I got in touch with her. I hoped she would say yes about coming and meeting you and I didn’t have to convince her. She came immediately and everything went as per the plan.”

“Oh so you and Neha?” Riya asked. “That’s right we are childhood sweethearts and now when you cancel the wedding. I can convince my family to ask Neha’s parents for our wedding. After this cancellation they will not think about love marriage and all. They will happily accept our relationship and we can soon get married. That’s why I always say – Everything is Fair in Love.”

Why we need to be careful of what we say after the words “I Am”.


A Christmas gift at the end of the post.

“I Am That I Am” are considered sacred words as it is the response what Moses got when he asked God for his name. Spiritual speakers like Wayne Dyer, Pastor Joel Osteen and many more have highlighted the power of the words “I Am” in shaping our future. Dr. Wayne Dyer explains that the words “I Am” are sacred identification of God so we should be very cautious when we use these words in our day today life.

I am

I am

“The words I AM are your sacred identification as God- your highest self. Take care how you use this terms because saying anything after I AM that’s incongruent with God is really taking the Lord’s name in vain!” — Wayne W. Dyer

As per Pastor Joel Osteen the words “I Am” are magnetic and whatever we put after “I Am” comes looking for us. Whatever we say after the words “I Am” we invite that in our life.

Let us take a look at our thoughts; what do we mostly say or think after “I Am” in our regular phrases. Do we say “I Am Sick,” “I Am Tired”, “I Am Depressed,” “I Am Fed up,” “I Am Scrapping by,” “I Am Broke,” “I Am Lonely,” or do we think the exact opposite.

When you get up and see yourself in the mirror what are your first thoughts. “I Am looking so old,” or “I Am so fat,” or do you say “I Am always late,”

Take an honest test of your thoughts and answer this question. Is your life attracting exactly what you say after “I Am” or this spiritual law does not apply to you. Take your time start keeping check of your thoughts and spoken words and note if they actually become a reality in your life.

If this spiritual law works in your life I have amazing good news for you. You can shape your own future and your own life. Just get extremely conscious about your words. Never say or think anything negative about you and while you are at it why to think anything negative about others too. Just remove every negative thought and word from your life.

Make a list of affirmations that means a lot to you starting with “I Am” and read it in the morning after you get up, at night before you sleep and if you like read it whenever you get time during the day. Play it like a song in your head. Even if the affirmations are not true (yet) you should always use present tense to set the positive forces in motions.

I have mentioned some affirmations starting with the sacred, magical, magnetic words “I Am” in my post – Create A Better Tomorrow with Pre-Sleep Visualization

“I am well,”
“I am content,”
“I am lucky,”
“I am rich,”
“I am strong,”
“I am beautiful,”
“I am blessed with a wonderful family,”
“I am blessed ….;”

A Christmas gift for my amazing readers – I have made a list of some “Powerful Daily Affirmations” that you can download it here, print, and pin it, paste it, hang it or keep it at your home, in your office and everywhere you spend most of your time. Read it regularly and experience the power of positive energy in your life and yes don’t forget to share it with our loved ones.

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We wish you Merry Christmas & A Happy New Year.

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Clarity is the First Step towards Success


Since my last post – Is there a Formula for Failure? Lesson from Dr. Wayne Dyer’s ‘Your Sacred Self’ I felt like I told half of a story. In that, post we discussed how to avoid failures and the next question that popped up my mind was “Is there a formula for success?”

Clarity is the First Step towards Success

Clarity is the First Step towards Success

I have read a lot of material on success and goal setting. From all the great books I read I learned that there is not a single path to success. Successful people find or if required build their own road to achieve their dreams. Well I don’t have a formula for success (yet) but I do know one thing for sure that is the First Step towards Success is Clarity.

“The successful warrior is the average man, with laser-like focus.” -Bruce Lee

We think about our present status and all the current hurdles which dilutes our focus and as a results we lack clarity. Just as the Sun’s brightness gets covered with clouds we lose sight of our goals when temporary problems cross our way or worse we start giving more importance to these problems then our goals.

I agree it is hard to stay enthusiastic about our goals when life throws unexpected difficulties. In such conditions the only question that matters is “How serious are you about your goals?”

“It’s a lack of clarity that creates chaos and frustration. Those emotions are poison to any living goal.” — Steve Maraboli

Create in your mind such a precise picture about your successful life that you feel you have already achieved it. Let the vision pull you towards the beautiful life you want. Make your mind habitual towards the successful life you are striving for. Give your subconscious mind a glimpse of what you want so it can start working with you to achieve the dream life.

“We would do well to remember that the success of any struggle depends on the determination of its leaders and the clarity of its purpose, not the doubts of naysayers.” — Saree Makdisi

Most of the time we lose sight of our goals is when we think about other opinions over our inner voice. Many dreams are scarified because people are too concerned about disappointing others. It is sad that people would rather be where they are for the rest of their life then take risks. Getting mocked is people’s biggest fear and I think that’s what differentiates successful people from unsuccessful ones.

One cannot achieve success without stepping out of the comfort zone even if there is a risk of failing or getting mocked by others. We need to clear our thoughts about our own goal and not confuse with what others expect us to do or be.

“People who lack the clarity, courage, or determination to follow their own dreams will often find ways to discourage yours. When you change for the better, the people around you will be inspired to change also….but only after doing their best to make you stop. Live your truth and don’t EVER stop.” — Steve Maraboli

Before you start working on any of your goals you need to ask questions like:

. What exactly do I want?

. Where do I want to reach?

. What am I ready to give or do to reach this goal?

. Where do I see myself in the future?

If you have a clear goal then and only then you can start your journey on the path of success. It is simple (I do not mean easy) to achieve even the toughest goal if you have a clear picture about what exactly you want. Without clarity we make things complicated and delay our success.

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