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Clarity is the First Step towards Success


Since my last post – Is there a Formula for Failure? Lesson from Dr. Wayne Dyer’s ‘Your Sacred Self’ I felt like I told half of a story. In that, post we discussed how to avoid failures and the next question that popped up my mind was “Is there a formula for success?”

Clarity is the First Step towards Success

Clarity is the First Step towards Success

I have read a lot of material on success and goal setting. From all the great books I read I learned that there is not a single path to success. Successful people find or if required build their own road to achieve their dreams. Well I don’t have a formula for success (yet) but I do know one thing for sure that is the First Step towards Success is Clarity.

“The successful warrior is the average man, with laser-like focus.” -Bruce Lee

We think about our present status and all the current hurdles which dilutes our focus and as a results we lack clarity. Just as the Sun’s brightness gets covered with clouds we lose sight of our goals when temporary problems cross our way or worse we start giving more importance to these problems then our goals.

I agree it is hard to stay enthusiastic about our goals when life throws unexpected difficulties. In such conditions the only question that matters is “How serious are you about your goals?”

“It’s a lack of clarity that creates chaos and frustration. Those emotions are poison to any living goal.” — Steve Maraboli

Create in your mind such a precise picture about your successful life that you feel you have already achieved it. Let the vision pull you towards the beautiful life you want. Make your mind habitual towards the successful life you are striving for. Give your subconscious mind a glimpse of what you want so it can start working with you to achieve the dream life.

“We would do well to remember that the success of any struggle depends on the determination of its leaders and the clarity of its purpose, not the doubts of naysayers.” — Saree Makdisi

Most of the time we lose sight of our goals is when we think about other opinions over our inner voice. Many dreams are scarified because people are too concerned about disappointing others. It is sad that people would rather be where they are for the rest of their life then take risks. Getting mocked is people’s biggest fear and I think that’s what differentiates successful people from unsuccessful ones.

One cannot achieve success without stepping out of the comfort zone even if there is a risk of failing or getting mocked by others. We need to clear our thoughts about our own goal and not confuse with what others expect us to do or be.

“People who lack the clarity, courage, or determination to follow their own dreams will often find ways to discourage yours. When you change for the better, the people around you will be inspired to change also….but only after doing their best to make you stop. Live your truth and don’t EVER stop.” — Steve Maraboli

Before you start working on any of your goals you need to ask questions like:

. What exactly do I want?

. Where do I want to reach?

. What am I ready to give or do to reach this goal?

. Where do I see myself in the future?

If you have a clear goal then and only then you can start your journey on the path of success. It is simple (I do not mean easy) to achieve even the toughest goal if you have a clear picture about what exactly you want. Without clarity we make things complicated and delay our success.

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Is there a Formula for Failure? Lesson from Dr. Wayne Dyer’s “Your Sacred Self”

“You’ll seldom experience regret for anything that you’ve done. It is what you haven’t done that will torment you. The message, therefore, is clear. Do it! Develop an appreciation for the present moment. Seize every second of your life and savor it.” — Wayne W. Dyer

Is there a Formula for Failure? Lesson from Dr. Wayne Dyer’s “Your Sacred Self”

Is there a Formula for Failure? Lesson from Dr. Wayne Dyer’s “Your Sacred Self”

Dr. Wayne Dyer also known as “father of motivation” by his fans has written more than 40 books in the field of self–development. I am currently reading his “Your Sacred Self” and right in the start of this wonderful book a formula for failure jumped out at me. I would love to share this with you.

“You get treated in life the way you teach people to treat you.” — Wayne W. Dyer

As per Dr. Wayne Dyer there is not one single formula for success. Every successful person finds his /her own path to achieve the desired results. But when it comes to failure he does mention a formula which all of us should be aware of so that we can make sure we are not on the path of failure.

“Formula for Failure: Trying to please everyone and ignoring our inner impulse.”

Don’t we fall into the rut to make everyone around us happy? Even when our inner voice the intelligence that has baffled science for centuries tells us to let go or do something which will actually add value to your life or will put us a step closer to our desire.

Why are we so eager to be people pleasers? Why the opinion of others is more important than our inner impulse? Do you feel the same? Do you silent your inner impulse just because you think you will not get others approval?

“I would rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I’m not.” — Wayne W. Dyer

Think about it. The creator has made us different. Every individual is unique. Even identical twins have a different personality, different dreams and of course a different destiny. So there is really no point in trying to fit in a perfection mold.

Our inner impulse always leads us towards fulfilling our destiny or towards our calling. We need to make our mind quite to listen to this voice so remove the noise of others. Try to give less importance to what others say or think and try to listen to your inner voice.

It is almost impossible to make everyone happy. It makes more sense to find a path that takes you to your dreams while serving others. Not the other way around.

“Enjoying life is far superior to being graded on your performance in life.” — Wayne W. Dyer

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Being classy! – A Funny Incident Post

Being Classy

Being Classy

Few days back somebody recommended my husband a classy new restaurant famous for its Mughlai cuisine. Mumbai has a lot of restaurants that serve kebabs, biryanis and tandoories; so what made this restaurant worth mentioning was its origin. Just like the recommender and my husband this restaurant is from Kolkata.

After running four successful branches in Kolkata the restaurant’s owner decided to venture out in Mumbai. Anyone who had a slightest connection with Kolkata was pretty excited to try this new restaurant and my husband was no different. “Honey, do you know they serve biryani the way Bengalis like?” he showed excitement while taking about the new place he couldn’t wait to try. “That’s great”; I replied while imaging a pungent smell of mustard oil overpowering the taste of every spice in the biryani.

Last Saturday after an hour’s drive we reached the classy new place. A huge mob of people was waiting for their tables. I made my way through the crowd and found a restaurant staff taking care of table allotments. The exhausted man took down my name and informed me it might take more than an hour to get a table. I told him no problem and moved back to a side of the restaurants compound.

I looked at the crowd. Rich families mostly Bengali from all over Mumbai had gather there I guess they promoted this restaurant in some celebrity Durga Puja Pandal. The people standing out there with their expensive clothes, big jewellery and bigger attitude did not look happy about the situation. I noticed a takeout counter in a corner where some people were taking heavy parcels home. Near to it was a cook constantly making rolls like a street side stall in Kolkata. Looking at the response this place was getting I was happy to find a new place to dine on special occasions.

My husband entered after parking the car and tried to find me in the crowd of people waiting to get their table. I waved to him and when I got his attention I pointed out the cook making rolls and he got a couple of rolls for us to munch on while waiting. The rolls were tasty and my frustration shifted back to excitement for the famous biryani.

Finally we got a table; we ordered the biryani instantly. People who were enjoying their dinner inside showed no concern for the madness outside. They were chatting and laughing and were in no hurry. I noticed almost every table had biryani on it. These people were too classy and polished to notice the beautiful interior the restaurant had. It looked like a room in a Mughal Emperor’s palace with modern furniture. The staff was looking like they walked out of the Arabian Nights stories.

The famous biryani came and it looked colorless we assumed the meat must be below the white rice but after digging in we found just one bland boiled piece of meat. We called the waiter and he confirmed he gave us the right order. It tasted bland; it was a pile of greasy white steam rice with a piece of boiled meat no colour, no flavour and no spices. We pushed down almost half with a lot of effort and told the waiter to pack the rest of it. I looked at others eating the biryani and they looked happy with it.

Not knowing how to react we left for home with our small parcel. When we reached home we noticed a stray dog looking at us with hope. My husband asked me lifting the parcel “Are you going to eat this?” I gestured no and he gave the rest of the famous biryani to the dog. The dog swiftly started eating. We looked closely and the dog looked very happy with that food. His satisfied impression matched the rich faces I saw in the restaurant.

Looking at the dog my husband said; “May be he gets it.”

“What?” I asked. He replied, “Being classy!”

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7 Life Lessons from Mr. Kishor Kharat (MD & CEO of IDBI Bank) for a Successful Life (#made of great)


Tata Motors came up with a great campaign to inspire millions by honouring those who are #madeofgreat. I consider myself blessed to meet inspiring people all the time. I believe there is something within all of us that makes us unique.

When I thought of someone, I know and is made of great – the first person that popped in my mind is my Uncle (Kaka as I call him) Mr. Kishor Kharat (MD & CEO of IDBI Bank) who is undeniably made of great and also the motivating example of greatness and excellence driven by self-belief.

Mr. Kishor Kharat (MD & CEO IDBI Bank)

Mr. Kishor Kharat (MD & CEO IDBI Bank)

My uncle Kishor Piraji Kharat has assumed charge as MD & CEO of IDBI Bank with effect from August 14, 2015. He was earlier posted as executive director of Union Bank of India. He is a graduate in commerce and law, and is a certified associate of the Indian Institute of Bankers. He also holds an Executive Diploma in Management. Before Union Bank of India he had served Bank of Baroda for three decades. He has dealt with various verticals of banking including credit, international business, information technology and general administration both in India as well as overseas.

When someone we know forever, a family member starts making waves and influence many you cannot help but be proud. Proud was the exact feeling I felt when I interacted with a stranger recently in an event. She saw my full name on my tag and started taking with me. The first question she asked me was, “Are you related to Mr. Kishor Kharat?” I nodded yes and got into a long talk about how we learn from role models who lead by example. My uncle has guided me on many occasions I have always looked up to him especially when I was choosing my specialization for college and when got my first job in a private bank. I have always found his drive to achieve big dreams admirable.

The #madeofgreat campaign of Tata Motors builds upon their DNA of trust, authenticity, reliability, simplicity, as well as its commitment to innovation. These are the qualities that make winners like their Global Brand Ambassador – Lionel Messi who perfectly fits the role as he is trustworthy, reliable, pioneering, simple and driven by self-belief.madeofgreat

A great and strong character is something that one can find common in all great people. I think it is my Uncle’s strong mind and willpower to achieve greatness is what drives him. The way my uncle has strived for his success and position has taught me some important life lessons. My uncle who comes from a humble background started at a low position in the banking industry but his thirst for education and excellence that took him to the great heights.

7 Life Lessons from Mr. Kishor Kharat for a Successful Life:

1. Ambition: A person should always be ambitious in life. Where you come from? What your background is? These questions are irrelevant. One must do whatever one can from wherever s/he is. If one dreams big and works hard, s/he can reach greatness.

2. Humbleness: Even after achieving great success my uncle has not forgotten his roots. The village that he grew in celebrated his success and my uncle took time out from his busy schedule to be a part of the celebration. He talked about his childhood and people that have made impact on his life. He mentioned how important was the influence of his mother (my grandmother) on his life and talk about his teachers from the village.

3. Self-Confident: Anyone who is someone has achieved it because of self-confidence. My uncle has set an example for many that confidence can take you to great heights. One must keep educating self in relevant skills to live a confident life.

4. Hard Work: A person no matter how intelligent or talented cannot become successful without hard work. My uncle has proven that when one shows commitment to work they do get appreciated for the hard work.

5. Positive Attitude: To live a positive life one must have a positive mind and attitude towards everything. Every difficulty should be taken as an opportunity to grow. My uncle has overcome many challenges in his life to reach a successful position. It is his positive attitude that kept him going despite many obstacles.

6. Vision: Seeing the big picture, visualizing your goals before achieving them are important qualities of successful people like my uncle. To grow one must be a visionary. My uncle believes in the motto – Dream big and try to achieve it.

7. Work–Life Balance: Besides being, a Top Banker my uncle is a caring husband and father of two sons. He has tried to balance his demanding hours at work and his time at home. My Aunt (also a banker) has been a pillar of support in his career. From my uncle and aunt I take the lesson of being supportive, loving and caring towards my spouse’s career. The couple is a perfect role model for everyone trying to balance work and life.

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9 Takeaways from IndiBlogger’s BNLF event

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The two days of BNLF has enriched my desire, excitement, and knowledge about professional blogging. I treasured meeting, interacting, and spending time with bunch of creative people who proudly calls themselves BLOGGERS.
Bloggers are a special tribe that likes sharing their passion with the world. We like to express our creativity boldly. Some of us do face criticism even threats but that does not dim our enthusiasm to blog. Bloggers are trendsetters and even rule breakers. We find joy in creating something new and unique. We are proud about our small new world of words, pictures and videos. We create awareness and opportunities.

Indiblogger’s team has helped bloggers in India reach a much wider audience. I am grateful to be a member of Indiblogger and after attending the BNLF event my gratitude grew multifold. The event was organized and managed perfectly, every note just as promoted was a keynote, every influencer speaker was encouraging to partake, participants were involved and interested in learning, the venue The Lalit Mumbai was delightful, the cleartrip activities were fun, the master cooking class was educational and the food was delicious. (if I missed to mention something please feel free to add it in the comment section)

Top 9 takeaways from BNLF for me:

1. AnshulTewari of Youth Ki Awaaz – Showed us how blogging is a powerful tool that can bring attention to issues that the media ignores. Blogging moves people, societies and even governments.

2. Arnab Ray helped us understand the delicate balance between a day job and pursuing our passion to write / blog. The GreatBong took us on a journey of politics, books, movies and how blogging changed his life.

3. Everyone knows Bruce Dickinson (Iron Maiden) is a great entertainer with millions of fans across the world. In BNLF we got to know that he is an equally great entrepreneur. The class went crazy when he walked on the stage. We all calmed downed and listened when he started talking about the smart ideas that helped him take his brand to millions. His business strategies had a mix of wild and brilliant ideas like adding zeros, difference between customers & fans, the creative mosquito and such never heard before ideas.

4. Bruce Dickinson’s in his class said, “If you want to achieve it, you need to dream it.” This mantra changes lives and it can change ours too.

5. Christoph Trappe – The authentic storyteller explained us the importance of telling a story in a pure authentic way. He encouraged us to create a unique identity. I liked his quote, “Be willing to be vulnerable”. This was his first trip to India I hope he took good memories from here.

6. Preeti Shenoy’s talk on a writer’s life was realistic. She gave us a glimpse of a bestselling author’s life that is 90% of hard work (research and writing) and 10% of glamour. Writing with a pet nearby may add to the luck factor.

7. Kanan Gill’s talk was hilarious. He talked how planning your life in notebooks and diaries may not work but with a great sense of humor, you can reach places.

8. Purva Ray’s gave Amu-sing answers to the dreaded question, “What do you do for a living?” It has been a challenge explaining what we do when we say we blog but now with her funny insights I might end up laughing then coming up with a witty answer.

with Jeff Bullas 9. Jeff Bullas an internet marketing genius. I religiously followed Jeff’s teachings and was overexcited to meet him in person. His practical points on blogging, marketing and promotions using social media can help us increase our blogging earnings. The best quote he made in his class was, “Done is better than perfect”. Jeff’s selfie with Indibloggers will always remain as something special.

I cannot thank Indiblogger enough for getting us a chance to meet such influential personalities and for everything packed in the two days of BNLF.

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