Archives

Create A Better Tomorrow with Pre-Sleep Visualization

Pre Sleep Visualization

Pre-Sleep Visualisation

Recently there has been a lot of talk about what you do right after you wake up. I also have three posts on the morning and night rituals (Creative Visualisation – Why I do it? and 3 Mistakes you are probably making while you Pray).

So why I am dedicating a whole post to Pre-Sleep Visualisation Exercise?

It is because I believe this is the most crucial part of the day. Our subconscious mind is most absorbing when we sleep or when we are in a relaxed mode.

“Everything you can imagine is real.” Pablo Picasso

If you have seen a hypnotist at work, you would have noticed that the first thing the hypnotist do is relax the person he wants to hypnotize. He sends him into deep relaxation or sleep mode before he gives him instructions. A learned hypnotist can do wonders at this stage. He can remove fears or deep-seated habits or addictions like smoking. He can make the person confident or even enhance any skills in this semi conscience mode.

“Almost all people are hypnotics. The proper authority saw to it that the proper belief should be induced, and the people believed properly.” Charles Fort

We get to this semi conscious; open to instructions and most absorbing stage just before we go to sleep every night. What we think just before we sleep is very crucial to shape our lives.

Most of us either think of things that went wrong that day or things that may go wrong the next day. Our subconscious mind absorbs all this and marinate in that thought for the whole night before we know it that negative thought becomes a reality in our life.

“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.” Theodore Roosevelt

Following trick may sound childish but it is a very powerful way to remember the pre-sleep visualisation exercise.

Imagine that after you sleep some angel comes and take notes of the last words you were thinking and seals those word for your future i.e. for your life. This angle does not check if it is positive thought or a negative one. It just seals our faith with our thoughts. In short, we are predicting our own future with whatever we are imaging in our mind.

Now if this really happens would you ever think, “I hate my life”; or “This never works out for me” or “Nobody loves me” or any other negative thought

or would you rather use this crucial time to think positive thoughts like;

“I am well,”
“I am content,”
“I am lucky,”
“I am rich,”
“I am strong,”
“I am beautiful,”
“I am blessed with a wonderful family,”
“I am blessed ….;”

Think about it, give it a try. After you say your prayers, count your blessings and kiss your loved ones good night think about positive affirmations or quotes and feel them as a part of your life. Give it a try you have nothing to lose. If it works out let us know.

“It is never too late to be what you might have been.” George Eliot

Leave a Comment below or by clicking “Comment” link under the Title of the Post, I Would Love to Know Your Opinion on This.

5 Easy Habits to Introduce the Magic of Appreciation in Life.

 

5 Easy Habits to Introduce the Magic of Appreciation in your Life.

5 Habits of Appreciation.

Here goes a small tale I heard from a learned speaker trying to teach her audience about appreciation:

“A husband returns home from work to find his wife sitting on couch digging in a big bag of chips while watching TV, the house was a mess and his usually dolled up wife matched the house in appearance. She was still in her night cloths with messed up hair and a pile of home delivered food’s empty containers lied on the coffee table in front of the couch. His emotions changed from stunned, angered and then worried within minutes. He went close to his wife and holding her hand he asked in a lowered volume, “what happened? Is everything fine?” She gave him a smile and calmly said “nothing.”

He went in the kitchen and saw there was no dinner prepared and the sink was overflowing with dirty dishes, he went to the bedroom and saw the bed still not made up. Laundry laying here and there, even his wet towel which he threw on the bed in the morning dried there itself. He rushed back to his wife and now with a firm voice he asked again, “Please tell me what’s the matter?” His wife gave him a sweet smile and replied “Nothing dear everyday you ask me, “what the hell you do whole day long?” So I did nothing today.”

Conclusion:

I hope the husband learned the lesson but don’t we do the same. Don’t we always take people close to us for granted? How many times do we appreciate our loved ones? Our spouse or children or parents or siblings or friends or anyone who we depend upon? we don’t realise the importance of their presence in our life. Why don’t we appreciate the people in our life? Saying a simple thank you can be more powerful than we realise.

I do most of the cooking at home. When my busy husband takes out time to cook anything I appreciate it till he blushes. It’s not at all about the food he cooks or the work he puts into it but the thought that counts the most for me. As a result he loves making more of these crazy experimental dishes for us. He puts his heart and soul in them because he knows his efforts are not only recognised but also appreciated. The result as you guessed right is always great food plus amazing quality time in the kitchen together.

Don’t get me wrong it’s not about getting work done from your spouse plan, showing your love for each other by doing something different and special together makes the life worth celebrating. In that couple of hours we forget the daily grind and enjoy the present that means not thinking about the past or worrying about the future.

“The talent for being happy is appreciating and liking what you have, instead of what you don’t have.” ~ Woody Allen.

We are the happiest when we Live in the Present. It may feel hard to spend most of our time in the present as we are used to think about our past or worry about future. We need to reprogram our mind to appreciate more and complain less. It is easy to tame your mind into a very beneficial positive appreciation habits using any or all below mentioned methods. I gathered following tricks from many influential books like The Power of Appreciation, Creative Visualization.

5 Habits of Appreciation:

1. Appreciation Prayer: Like me if you are one of those who pray, this will be the easiest way for you to start your appreciation habit. Just after your daily prayer, Thank God for something big or small. Feel grateful. It can be a single thing or a list of things. You will soon see the difference and get a feel of your prayers being answered.
2. Appreciation Diary: This can be the old school actual diary as many of us grew up writing in or the latest digital version in our computers or smart phones. Maintaining a diary is fun. We can document all our achievements big or small and when we need encouragement just going through this diary is bound to lift our spirits and help us create more reasons to write in that diary.
3. Appreciation Object: If you have read or watch “The Secret” you will immediately know what I am talking about for those who haven’t yet I would love to expand on this. An appreciation object is anything you can carry with you daily in your pocket that can remind you to be grateful of everything in your life. It can be a small rock, toy, marble, or anything small enough to carry and unique enough that you will remember its purpose. Whenever you touch it say thank you for something in your life…simple.
4. Appreciation before or after sleep: Just like appreciation prayer counting your blessing before or after your sleep can be a sure shot way to have a positive and productive day ahead. Plus it is far interesting then counting sheep. 
5. Appreciation as and when required: Saying thank you at the right time for the right reason can help not only in your work but personal life as well. So never miss an opportunity to say thank you. It is very important that these thanks are genuine and not just a formality. It will make the other person feel good and the relationship will only benefit from a good heartfelt thank you.

“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more.” – Oprah Winfrey

So how have you introduce the power of Appreciation in your life?

10 Steps to Be the Best Version of Yourself – Be the Best You in 2017

We are already 5 days in the New Year and I have seen mixed reactions from people about the year. Some think it makes no difference just the calendar changes nothing new. Other friends who claim to understand or follow numerology consider this to be a far better or to quote my friend easier year than the last. Some have already broken their resolution and some are yet to start with this year’s goals.
Be the Best You in 2017

Be the Best You in 2017

I neither am in favor of the idea of resolution nor am I against it after all, it is a complete personal choice. I do however want to pin some tips to keep myself on the track of self-improvement. Moreover, if my numerologist friend is right I would like to take advantage of the favorable year and try to achieve more this year.

My competition here is with myself. This year I want to be the best version of myself and I feel everyone should strive for the same. Let us motivate, push and help each other achieve more, do something big while being the healthiest and happiest so far. Let us declare 2017 the best year of our lives. The year we make our dreams come true. If you are up for this then I encourage you to consider the 10 steps mentioned below that will help us to Be the Best Version of Ourselves.

Step 1: Everything happens for the reasons:
Whatever happened so far be it good or bad it belongs to the past and we should not try to hold it tightly in our present. Everything was a learning experience and although we cannot see it now it was clearly important in our journey of life. This step helps us get over our most challenging experiences.

“I’ve learned that everything happens for a reason,” the yogi Krishnan told him. “Every event has a why and all adversity teaches us a lesson… Never regret your past. Accept it as the teacher that it is.” Robin S. Sharma, The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari

Step 2: Let Go:
We know everything that happened has its importance and it should stay in the past so letting go comes easily after we complete the first step. Easy said than done but once we stop dragging unwanted memories we slowly make ourselves free of the emotional baggage that holds us back.

“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.” Marilyn Monroe

Step 3: Forgiveness:
Currently I am studying the art of forgiveness and it has changed my perception to look at others. This step needs a full article and I will write it after I research and experiment with this concept. Forgiveness is not for others it is for our own peace of mind. By forgiving, we break the bond we create with an unpleasant incident. By forgiving, we make sure that we do not deal with similar unfavorable incident or person again.

“Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much.” Oscar Wilde

Step 4: Take Responsibility:
To make this year our best year so far we need to take responsibility for everything in our life and our dreams. When we stop blaming others for our shortfall and start owing it, instead we get the necessary power to work on it. When we take responsibility for our own future, we get the clarity to find the right path.

“Take responsibility of your own happiness, never put it in other people’s hands.” Roy T. Bennett

Step 5: Mental Relaxation:
To be our best version this year we need to think straight about our goals and plans. To think straight we need clarity and clarity does not come to a restless mind. Stop the wheels in your mind for a while. Relax the way you enjoy most. Empty all your thoughts and give your mind a much-needed rest. Clarity is the First Step towards Success

“Our minds must relax: they will rise better and keener after a rest. Just as you must not force fertile farmland, as uninterrupted productivity will soon exhaust it, so constant effort will sap our mental vigour, while a short period of rest and relaxation will restore our powers.” Seneca, On the Shortness of Life

Step 6: Avoid Drama:
I have written articles on how to avoid difficult people who enjoy drama and confusion. These kinds of people will keep you away from achieving any of your goals. They will drain your energy and waste your time. It is always better to be wise while dealing with drama in our life. You can read some tricks to handle these in Dealing with Difficult People – Complainer/ Whiner (Part 2)

“Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama.” Miguel Ruiz

Step 7: Life is fun:
Dreams and goals are important but so is the journey we call life. Once you complete the above steps, you will feel light and energetic. You will experience doing more in lesser time. Until now, we have taken necessary measures to make us emotionally strong. Now let us enjoy our life and live everyday of 2017 to its fullest. Being classy! – A Funny Incident Post

“Take hold of your own life. See that the whole existence is celebrating. These trees are not serious, these birds are not serious. The rivers and the oceans are wild, and everywhere there is fun, everywhere there is joy and delight. Watch existence, listen to the existence and become part of it.” Osho

Step 8: Dream Big:
We are enjoying our lives and living every day to its fullest. This gives us the confidence to strive for our wildest desires. Why shouldn’t we try to achieve something big, something others consider impossible? Now that we are taking responsibility for our own future then let us dream big. Aim for something that is big enough to scare you. Bring out your inner most desires may be this is the year you will get close to achieve it or actually achieve it. We would never know until we try. How to Acquire The Mentality of Successful People

“Never give up on what you really want to do. The person with big dreams is more powerful than one with all the facts.” H. Jackson Brown Jr.

Step 9: Take Action:
We have left our past where it belongs, we have dropped our emotional baggage, we have taken responsibility for our future and we have a massive dream. This year already feels like the best year so far. Now let us go one-step ahead and take necessary actions to make our wildest dream come true. Research about how to achieve what you want. Internet is a great source and will help you out. You can read articles, watch YouTube videos or take online courses but make sure you educate yourself so you can take the right action. Read more in Take Action Towards Goal – Lord’s Hanuman’s Teaching About Following One’s Bliss

“Don’t be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

Step 10: Gratitude:
This step is very important for me. Being thankful will open many doors, will help you out in many situations, will earn you a lot of brownie points with the creative power, source energy, Universe or God whatever you call the higher power. Being grateful is a prayer and the more you say it the more reasons you will get to be grateful for. Do not believe me. Give it a try and I guarantee you 2017 will be your best year so far. Read more in Appreciation – 5 easy methods to tame your mind.

“If the only prayer you said was thank you, that would be enough.” Meister Eckhart

Vijaya Dashami – The Day I touched Divine.

Vijaya Dashami – The Day I touched Divine

Vijaya Dashami – The Day I touched Divine

I am not a born Bengali but become a part of this Vibrant and Beautiful community from the day I got married. Actually a decade before that; when I started dating my (now) husband. While dating I did participate in the beautiful culture by attending the Saraswati Puja at the Anandmayi Ashram and getting the divine blessings of Ma Saraswati who has always been generous with her blessings on me. In those college days we feasted like royalty on Durga Puja by attending the multiple Pandals and having the lip smacking Bhog and saving our pocket money to indulge on the Bengali delicacies available in the temporary stalls of the festive Durga Puja Pandals.

I still feel the excitement of a young college girl exploring a new world whenever I step into a pandal. The curiosity to know as much as possible, the concentration required to repeat every word after the pandit at the time of Astami Anjali, uproar of the Shankha, fragrance of the Shiuli Flowers, thump of the Dhak, clouds of incense emitting while a devotee is in a trance of Dhunuchi Naach and all this blending into an immense celebration of the Divine Shakti still gives me the goose bumps like I am experiencing everything for the first time.

I had to wait a decade before I could take part in one ritual that I adore the most. On the last day of Durga Puja which is also known as Vijay Dashmi all the married women get to perform a unique and special ritual.

The women dressed up in the iconic red border Bengali saree and big red bindies; perform the Dashmi Puja by getting close enough to touch, apply sindoor, offer Prasad/sweets to the massive idols of Ma Durga, Ma Lakmi, Ma Saraswati, Lord Kartikey and Lord Ganesh. This has always fascinated me as I have seen huge idols of various Hindu Gods in temples, in Ganesh Chaturti and other festivals but here it is hard enough to reach the idols feet let alone applying Sindoor on forehead and actually feeding the idols sweet with your hands.

Here I do not want to get into the debate about idol worship because as per my hindu upbringing and beliefs touching those beautiful clay idols is as good as touching the Divine Shakti herself.

Last year on Vijay Dashmi, I was standing in the line of women to perform this beautiful ritual. I have a very curious mind and do not hesitate to ask anyone about their take on spirituality.

I summed up all my courage and asked the women ahead of me in the line, “What do you say to Ma when you get so close to her?” I got almost similar answers from most of them as they ask for health and happiness for their family, they ask for success for their husband and children, they ask for help when they need some and as such blessings from the Ma.

I pondered on the thought about what I shall say. I knew I would not get a lot of time in front of the Idol, the line was huge and every lady was getting rushed. I had a list of things I could ask for to Ma but this list is always in my mind so naturally it reflects in my daily prayers. I wanted to use these few beautiful minutes that I get once in a year with the Idol of the Divine, which is full of the positive energy of so many people by expressing my inner most thoughts and prayers.

The moment I got on the podium and close to the Idol of Lord Ganesh my inner most prayer came out of my heart and it was “Thank You”. I kept repeating Thank you constantly. Thank you for this opportunity to express my inner most thoughts for you, thank you for this life and everything you have blessed me with so far and thank you for all the blessings you have lined up for me in the future.

I touched a pinch of Sindoor on the foreheads, hands and feet on all five Idols, I fed them with a morsel of sweet and while doing all this I constantly kept repeating Thank you as a Mantra. I could feel the warmth of the Divine Smile graciously accepting my prayers.

The day I touched Divine and Thanked her for everything – I felt blessed.  

How to Acquire The Mentality of Successful People

In my last post 5 Life Lessons from Art Of Living Happiness Program I wrote about the 5 life lessons that are taught in the 6 days course. Besides these 5 points we discussed many topics on mind and spirituality.

How to Acquire The Mentality of Successful People

How to Acquire The Mentality of Successful People

In this post I want to share about the life lesson that affected me the most. This lesson is different than the one mentioned in the last post. The class discussed a topic that helped me analyze a self-sabotaging habit I needed to change immediately.

“You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of.” ― Jim Rohn

Whom do we hold responsible for the difficulties in our life?

If something goes wrong, whom do we blame?

If we are not reaching our target, whom do we hold accountable?

The answer to the above questions is – someone who is closest to us. Our parents or spouse. Mostly it is someone we love

It is always easier to blame someone else for our inability. Most of us instantly blame others when things do not go as per our plan. This habit of blaming others is common with people who have a Victim Mentality.

“Attack the evil that is within yourself, rather than attacking the evil that is in others.” ― Confucius

Mentality Type 1: Victim Mentality

Someone with Victim Mentality finds comfort in throwing the blame on others. It saves there mind from feeling any pressure after facing a failure or loss. This is a very addictive and harmful habit where the person enjoys pretending to be a Victim while putting a lot of stress on someone else. This creates bitterness in relationships and the blamer loses most of their energy on an unrewarding habit.

End Result–> a couple or more unhappy failures struggling together.

To know about how to deal with these kind of difficult people do read

Dealing with Difficult People – Complainer / Whiner Part 1

and

Dealing with Difficult People – Complainer / Whiner Part 2

Mentality Type 2: Culprit Mentality

The second Mentality is of those whose reaction to every failed situation is to drawn in self-pity and self-blaming. The people with this mentality feel guilty about their circumstances and consider themselves unlucky. They believe they do not deserve success and any good thing they have will be taken away from them.

End Result–> a sad person who has given up trying for any kind success and is willing to accept failure as his fate.

“If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of your trouble, you wouldn’t sit for a month.” ― Theodore Roosevelt

Mentality Type 3: Witness or Success Mentality

Witness or Success Mentality is only mentality that can lead us to a successful life. Being a Witness in your own life is a very practical concept that helps us face any situation or challenges.

As per this success mentality, one must observe the situation as an outsider or a witness. This helps us to understand the facts about the challenge and we get over the emotional angle that affects our decisions.

When we pretend to be an witness to the situation we can see the bigger picture and think about the challenge from multiple viewpoints. A Witness Mentality person takes responsibilities for his actions and takes charge of their dreams and goals. As they do not blame self or others, they use their whole energy towards achieving their goals.

End Result–> a determined person who is in charge of his life, who is striving to fulfil his goals, while utilising his full energy to become successful.

How to Acquire The Mentality of Successful People

Step 1: Immediately STOP the blaming habit. Do not blame self or others for any situations or failures.

Step 2: Accept the circumstances and challenges as it is and respond to them as an outsider.

Step 3: Take complete RESPONSIBILITY for any failure or goals that you desire to achieve. By taking responsibility, you keep your whole power with yourself.

Step 4: Observing as a witness advice and encourage self to achieve a goal. Keep the emotions aside and think practically how you can get what you want in the shortest time or easiest way.

Step 5: Keep reminding self by repeating affirmations as

“I am responsible for my life”
“I am responsible for my achievements”
“I am responsible for my Success”
“I am responsible for my Happiness”
“I am responsible for my Health”

“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.” ― Eleanor Roosevelt

    Leave a Comment below or by clicking “Comment” link under the Title of the Post, I Would Love to Know Your Opinion on This.

5 Life Lessons from Art Of Living Happiness Program

Those who know me know that I am a student of life that means I like to keep studying about Power of Mind, Spirituality, Positive Thinking, Health and one of my favorite area – Happiness.

AOL Happiness Program

AOL Happiness Program

I zealously take on every chance to grow my knowledge in the topics mentioned above. Recently I got the opportunity to do the Art of Living’s Happiness Course and I am glad I did it. This course highlights some important life lessons that most of us tend to forget in our daily struggles. This is not a religious course as it focuses mainly on the way we react with people or circumstances and its effect on our life.

The course also encourages the habit of daily exercises, Meditation, Yoga and Pranayama. One feels refreshed and recharged while and after this course. The Happiness Course acts as a Mind and Body detox.

“The best form of worship (puja) is to be happy, is to be grateful” – Sri Sri

Initially I was a bit concerned about the time requirement for the course. 6 days 3 hours each felt a little tedious. I was pleasantly surprised that the time flew by during those 6 days. Every morning I got up looking forward to the class and was happy to be an active participant in the program. Both my teachers (Sunil Poddar and Preetam Lunawat) were bustling with energy and joy, they also encouraged us all to stretch our limits be it of our stressful mind or tired body.

“Keeping the mind happy makes work effortless. This is the skill for productivity” – Sri Sri

AOL Happiness Course has taught me to focus on the present it has also taught me to live responsibly. This program teaches 5 main points which I have shared below.

Happiness Point 1: Opposites compliments each other

Without darkness, we cannot appreciate Light. Without Sadness, we would not know happiness. We need to accept and value the bad to appreciate the good. Life is fascinating when it is full of ups and downs. We need to understand that our universe has a beautiful balance of opposites.

Happiness Point 2: Accept people and situation as they are

Do not spend your life reacting to unfavorable situations. Life is going to throw some curve balls and we need to respond to them in a matter that will help others and us in the situation. A panic or angry reaction will only make the situation worst.

Similarly, we tend to compare a person with others that creates a lot of bitterness in relationships. Check out an article about harms of not accepting people as they are 7 Mind Traps that Steal our Happiness Trap 3: Comparison

Happiness Point 3: Don’t be a football of other people’s opinion

People worry a lot about what others say about them and this burden of other people’s opinion forces a person to take some very wrong decisions. I have written a detail article on the mind trap that will help anyone who feels trapped because they cannot ignore other people’s opinion. 7 Mind Traps that Steal our Happiness Trap 1: What other People Think about me

Happiness Point 4: Take Mistake as Mistake

When someone commits a mistake, do not go blaming that person for it. It will create a very negative impression in that person minds but on the other hand if we consider the mistake as mistake the person feels more responsible about his/her actions and would never repeat it.

Happiness Point 5: Stay in the present moment

We should not waste our time thinking about the past to save our mind from painful memories or the future as it puts stress on our mind. Staying in the present helps focus on the actual task at hand.

“When you wake up every morning, look into a mirror and give yourself a good smile. The smile is the sacred gift of life.” – Sri Sri

My next post will be about the life lesson that affected me the most. It is not one of the above-mentioned ones. It is something that was discussed in the class but it captured my attention and helped me analyze a self-sabotaging habit I needed to change immediately. There is a lot I learnt in those six days and I will be sharing it all with you so keep reading and do not forget to comment your views about this or any other article. Thank you for reading. Stay Awesome 🙂

    Leave a Comment below or by clicking “Comment” link under the Title of the Post, I Would Love to Know Your Opinion on This.