My post on Dealing with Difficult People – Complainer/ Whiner (Part 1) talks about the challenges one has to face when a loved one is a chronic complainer. This emotionally challenging problem can be cured with tough love and some patience. I have also mentioned a simple but effective remedy to get rid of this annoying habit and turning yourself into a happy and positive person.In Part 2 let’s see the other category of complainers:
2. Everyone else:
In this category you can put everyone other complainer you know other than the people close to your heart. In this category you can consider a complainer you work with or a neighbor or some distant relative we cannot get rid off or just a person you once met and somehow he/ she stuck with you. In short anyone you can live without.
The squeaking wheel doesn’t always get the grease. Sometimes it gets replaced.
Dealing with this category is simple as we are not emotionally involved with them. If you have to deal with a chronic complainer in this category you need to learn to give some firm replies to him/ her.
Whenever that person starts complaining don’t just be a passive listener. Try to understand what they are talking about; perhaps you can help them find a solution by asking simple questions like; “Oh! So what are you going to do about it?” or “How are you going to solve this problem?”
. How to identify a chronic complainer?
A chronic complainer is more interested in whining about an issue than to solve it. Till now you may have been a good listener to his/ her series of complains and this is precisely why the chronic complainer chooses you to vent out the huge negative flow of constant complaining.
“Say and do something positive that will help the situation; it doesn’t take any brains to complain.” -Robert A. Cook
Especially in the work place never agree with the complains the complainer is making not even by nodding your head unless you feel the same way; as the complainer can take the liberty to inform everyone else about your agreement and support to his/ her complains.
While the complainer is going on and on like a broken record and you cannot avoid him/ her just interrupt the conversation with sentences like; “I had no idea.” Or “Things don’t look so bad.” Or “Wow; is there anything positive about it?” Or “Sounds like you completely understood the problem, so what solutions have you thought about it?”
“Do not listen to those who weep and complain, for their disease is contagious.” – Og Mandino (author of The Greatest Salesman in the World)
This will come as a complete surprise to the complainer and as the complainer is more interested in the complains he/ she will not like your replies and questions. Gradually the complainer will stop considering you as his/ her chosen listener and you will find the peace and quiet you truly deserve.
“When you consistently maintain a positive frame of mind, you’ll become known as a problem-solver rather than a complainer. People avoid complainers. They seek out problem-solvers.” – Joseph Sommerville (author of Rainmaking Presentations)
This beautiful quote is included in the post: How to Lose Weight with Help of Simple Mind Tricks
“The trick is to enjoy life. Don’t wish away your days, waiting for better ones ahead.” — Marjorie Pay Hinckley
This beautiful quote is included in the post:7 Mind Traps That Steal Our Happiness – Trap 2. Worry
“If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.” — Dalai Lama XIV.
This beautiful quote is included in the post: How to Trick your Mind to Lose Weight
Life is pretty simple: You do some stuff. Most fails. Some works. You do more of what works. If it works big, others quickly copy it. Then you do something else. The trick is the doing something else.” — Tom Peters
This post is special because I am sharing my big secret about finally getting a grip on my weight problem. I have been struggling with an overweight body for more than a decade now. I got fed up of experimenting with weight loss solutions, diets, exercises whatever you name it I have done it.
Nothing was working for me. Everything I did; made me more and more fat. Doctors were prescribing rabbit food in the name of diet and even after eating like a bird I was not getting any thinner. Things started looking up when I stopped trying so hard. In other words I gave up trying too hard.
The world is getting obsessed with law of attraction and manifesting with thoughts ideology. This post is not to argue if that stuff works or not. I think it depends on your faith if you believe it works it will work for you and vice versa either ways you are right.
I know for sure that our mind controls our body and what we feed our mind helps us shape our body more than what we feed our stomach. Don’t believe me then ask yourself, why you are not getting results even after eating almost nothing in the name of dieting? Even after eating like a bird why the weighing scale does not budge?
Many of us have a difficult time when we try to lose weight. How we look and feel about ourselves gives clear instructions to our body how it should shape up this is why a positive body image is highly important. Your Body Image is the blueprint or commands your mind gives your body so let us try to keep it as positive as possible.
1. Grateful: Thank your body for everything it does for you all the time. Never say anything hateful about your body as your words and thoughts build up the blueprint of your body. The image you talk about or think about will become your reality so be grateful for all the things you can do because of your body.
2. Stop Negative Voices: Anything that makes you feel fat is filling your head with a negative body image. Do your best to silent all voices that remind you of not having a perfect figure. If a near one tells you that you need to lose weight thank that person for being concerned for you and while you are at it thank your body for everything it does for you. If you have an internal voice that reminds you of your excess fat all the time.
Preparing your mind for the change in your health is the biggest challenge and once we see a nice beautiful body image in our mind we can start making plans to make it a reality. Every success in life including achieving a fit body is a game of mind and the only way we can win this game is to see ourselves as winners.