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5 Easy Habits to Introduce the Magic of Appreciation in Life.

 

5 Easy Habits to Introduce the Magic of Appreciation in your Life.

5 Habits of Appreciation.

Here goes a small tale I heard from a learned speaker trying to teach her audience about appreciation:

“A husband returns home from work to find his wife sitting on couch digging in a big bag of chips while watching TV, the house was a mess and his usually dolled up wife matched the house in appearance. She was still in her night cloths with messed up hair and a pile of home delivered food’s empty containers lied on the coffee table in front of the couch. His emotions changed from stunned, angered and then worried within minutes. He went close to his wife and holding her hand he asked in a lowered volume, “what happened? Is everything fine?” She gave him a smile and calmly said “nothing.”

He went in the kitchen and saw there was no dinner prepared and the sink was overflowing with dirty dishes, he went to the bedroom and saw the bed still not made up. Laundry laying here and there, even his wet towel which he threw on the bed in the morning dried there itself. He rushed back to his wife and now with a firm voice he asked again, “Please tell me what’s the matter?” His wife gave him a sweet smile and replied “Nothing dear everyday you ask me, “what the hell you do whole day long?” So I did nothing today.”

Conclusion:

I hope the husband learned the lesson but don’t we do the same. Don’t we always take people close to us for granted? How many times do we appreciate our loved ones? Our spouse or children or parents or siblings or friends or anyone who we depend upon? we don’t realise the importance of their presence in our life. Why don’t we appreciate the people in our life? Saying a simple thank you can be more powerful than we realise.

I do most of the cooking at home. When my busy husband takes out time to cook anything I appreciate it till he blushes. It’s not at all about the food he cooks or the work he puts into it but the thought that counts the most for me. As a result he loves making more of these crazy experimental dishes for us. He puts his heart and soul in them because he knows his efforts are not only recognised but also appreciated. The result as you guessed right is always great food plus amazing quality time in the kitchen together.

Don’t get me wrong it’s not about getting work done from your spouse plan, showing your love for each other by doing something different and special together makes the life worth celebrating. In that couple of hours we forget the daily grind and enjoy the present that means not thinking about the past or worrying about the future.

“The talent for being happy is appreciating and liking what you have, instead of what you don’t have.” ~ Woody Allen.

We are the happiest when we Live in the Present. It may feel hard to spend most of our time in the present as we are used to think about our past or worry about future. We need to reprogram our mind to appreciate more and complain less. It is easy to tame your mind into a very beneficial positive appreciation habits using any or all below mentioned methods. I gathered following tricks from many influential books like The Power of Appreciation, Creative Visualization.

5 Habits of Appreciation:

1. Appreciation Prayer: Like me if you are one of those who pray, this will be the easiest way for you to start your appreciation habit. Just after your daily prayer, Thank God for something big or small. Feel grateful. It can be a single thing or a list of things. You will soon see the difference and get a feel of your prayers being answered.
2. Appreciation Diary: This can be the old school actual diary as many of us grew up writing in or the latest digital version in our computers or smart phones. Maintaining a diary is fun. We can document all our achievements big or small and when we need encouragement just going through this diary is bound to lift our spirits and help us create more reasons to write in that diary.
3. Appreciation Object: If you have read or watch “The Secret” you will immediately know what I am talking about for those who haven’t yet I would love to expand on this. An appreciation object is anything you can carry with you daily in your pocket that can remind you to be grateful of everything in your life. It can be a small rock, toy, marble, or anything small enough to carry and unique enough that you will remember its purpose. Whenever you touch it say thank you for something in your life…simple.
4. Appreciation before or after sleep: Just like appreciation prayer counting your blessing before or after your sleep can be a sure shot way to have a positive and productive day ahead. Plus it is far interesting then counting sheep. 
5. Appreciation as and when required: Saying thank you at the right time for the right reason can help not only in your work but personal life as well. So never miss an opportunity to say thank you. It is very important that these thanks are genuine and not just a formality. It will make the other person feel good and the relationship will only benefit from a good heartfelt thank you.

“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more.” – Oprah Winfrey

So how have you introduce the power of Appreciation in your life?

How to Acquire The Mentality of Successful People

In my last post 5 Life Lessons from Art Of Living Happiness Program I wrote about the 5 life lessons that are taught in the 6 days course. Besides these 5 points we discussed many topics on mind and spirituality.

How to Acquire The Mentality of Successful People

How to Acquire The Mentality of Successful People

In this post I want to share about the life lesson that affected me the most. This lesson is different than the one mentioned in the last post. The class discussed a topic that helped me analyze a self-sabotaging habit I needed to change immediately.

“You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of.” ― Jim Rohn

Whom do we hold responsible for the difficulties in our life?

If something goes wrong, whom do we blame?

If we are not reaching our target, whom do we hold accountable?

The answer to the above questions is – someone who is closest to us. Our parents or spouse. Mostly it is someone we love

It is always easier to blame someone else for our inability. Most of us instantly blame others when things do not go as per our plan. This habit of blaming others is common with people who have a Victim Mentality.

“Attack the evil that is within yourself, rather than attacking the evil that is in others.” ― Confucius

Mentality Type 1: Victim Mentality

Someone with Victim Mentality finds comfort in throwing the blame on others. It saves there mind from feeling any pressure after facing a failure or loss. This is a very addictive and harmful habit where the person enjoys pretending to be a Victim while putting a lot of stress on someone else. This creates bitterness in relationships and the blamer loses most of their energy on an unrewarding habit.

End Result–> a couple or more unhappy failures struggling together.

To know about how to deal with these kind of difficult people do read

Dealing with Difficult People – Complainer / Whiner Part 1

and

Dealing with Difficult People – Complainer / Whiner Part 2

Mentality Type 2: Culprit Mentality

The second Mentality is of those whose reaction to every failed situation is to drawn in self-pity and self-blaming. The people with this mentality feel guilty about their circumstances and consider themselves unlucky. They believe they do not deserve success and any good thing they have will be taken away from them.

End Result–> a sad person who has given up trying for any kind success and is willing to accept failure as his fate.

“If you could kick the person in the pants responsible for most of your trouble, you wouldn’t sit for a month.” ― Theodore Roosevelt

Mentality Type 3: Witness or Success Mentality

Witness or Success Mentality is only mentality that can lead us to a successful life. Being a Witness in your own life is a very practical concept that helps us face any situation or challenges.

As per this success mentality, one must observe the situation as an outsider or a witness. This helps us to understand the facts about the challenge and we get over the emotional angle that affects our decisions.

When we pretend to be an witness to the situation we can see the bigger picture and think about the challenge from multiple viewpoints. A Witness Mentality person takes responsibilities for his actions and takes charge of their dreams and goals. As they do not blame self or others, they use their whole energy towards achieving their goals.

End Result–> a determined person who is in charge of his life, who is striving to fulfil his goals, while utilising his full energy to become successful.

How to Acquire The Mentality of Successful People

Step 1: Immediately STOP the blaming habit. Do not blame self or others for any situations or failures.

Step 2: Accept the circumstances and challenges as it is and respond to them as an outsider.

Step 3: Take complete RESPONSIBILITY for any failure or goals that you desire to achieve. By taking responsibility, you keep your whole power with yourself.

Step 4: Observing as a witness advice and encourage self to achieve a goal. Keep the emotions aside and think practically how you can get what you want in the shortest time or easiest way.

Step 5: Keep reminding self by repeating affirmations as

“I am responsible for my life”
“I am responsible for my achievements”
“I am responsible for my Success”
“I am responsible for my Happiness”
“I am responsible for my Health”

“In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.” ― Eleanor Roosevelt

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Wake up to a Gold Morning with this Simple Morning Mantra

Today morning I was pleasantly surprised when I received a beautiful gift from Colgate (#Colgate360GoldMornings). The gift’s packaging reminded me how wonderful a morning can be. I consider myself a positive person but just like everyone else, I too sometimes get overwhelmed with the challenges of the daily grind.

My husband works long hours and it gets frustrating for us as many times we have to compromise on our sleep and today was one of those days. The alarm went off and I dragged myself out of the bed with a heavy head. I was feeling a grumpy, as I was busy with my morning chores the doorbell rang. I opened the door with almost a grunt and was surprised with a package. Coalgate scheduled the delivery before 7am and I got mine in time.

Before even opening the package, I could sense a big change in my mood. I felt happy to be surprised in such a nice way and when I opened the package, I was impressed with how beautiful and uplifting the contents and design on the packaging was.

Colgate Gold Morning

Colgate Gold Morning

My mood this morning turned from grumpy to inspired after reading the first sentence on the Colgate box; “It’s time to wake up to a Gold Morning!” I am grateful to Colgate (#Colgate360GoldMornings) to remind me how important it is to start the morning on a positive note. Every morning we are given a chance to start anew. Everything that is important to us gets a fresh opportunity with the start of a new day.

I completely agree with these motivational words of Og Mandino; “Welcome every morning with a smile. Look on the new day as another special gift from your Creator, another golden opportunity to complete what you were unable to finish yesterday. Be a self-starter. Let your first hour set the theme of success and positive action that is certain to echo through your entire day. Today will never happen again. Don’t waste it with a false start or no start at all. You were not born to fail.”

My Morning Mantra is simple it is just two words – “Thank You”. I have a ritual of saying “Thank You!” the moment I wake up. Almost every day I wake up feeling grateful for my life. Some rare days like today I forget to say my mantra but I do get to it later in the day. I thank the creator for another day, another opportunity and another chance to try to fulfill my dreams.

I fill my day with optimism by being grateful for everything that has made my life. You know what makes my good mornings turn to Gold, it is a simple but very powerful practice of counting my blessings and being grateful for them.

Colgate brandcover

This blog post was sponsored by Colgate India (#Colgate360GoldMornings).

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Why we need to be careful of what we say after the words “I Am”.


A Christmas gift at the end of the post.

“I Am That I Am” are considered sacred words as it is the response what Moses got when he asked God for his name. Spiritual speakers like Wayne Dyer, Pastor Joel Osteen and many more have highlighted the power of the words “I Am” in shaping our future. Dr. Wayne Dyer explains that the words “I Am” are sacred identification of God so we should be very cautious when we use these words in our day today life.

I am

I am

“The words I AM are your sacred identification as God- your highest self. Take care how you use this terms because saying anything after I AM that’s incongruent with God is really taking the Lord’s name in vain!” — Wayne W. Dyer

As per Pastor Joel Osteen the words “I Am” are magnetic and whatever we put after “I Am” comes looking for us. Whatever we say after the words “I Am” we invite that in our life.

Let us take a look at our thoughts; what do we mostly say or think after “I Am” in our regular phrases. Do we say “I Am Sick,” “I Am Tired”, “I Am Depressed,” “I Am Fed up,” “I Am Scrapping by,” “I Am Broke,” “I Am Lonely,” or do we think the exact opposite.

When you get up and see yourself in the mirror what are your first thoughts. “I Am looking so old,” or “I Am so fat,” or do you say “I Am always late,”

Take an honest test of your thoughts and answer this question. Is your life attracting exactly what you say after “I Am” or this spiritual law does not apply to you. Take your time start keeping check of your thoughts and spoken words and note if they actually become a reality in your life.

If this spiritual law works in your life I have amazing good news for you. You can shape your own future and your own life. Just get extremely conscious about your words. Never say or think anything negative about you and while you are at it why to think anything negative about others too. Just remove every negative thought and word from your life.

Make a list of affirmations that means a lot to you starting with “I Am” and read it in the morning after you get up, at night before you sleep and if you like read it whenever you get time during the day. Play it like a song in your head. Even if the affirmations are not true (yet) you should always use present tense to set the positive forces in motions.

I have mentioned some affirmations starting with the sacred, magical, magnetic words “I Am” in my post – Create A Better Tomorrow with Pre-Sleep Visualization

“I am well,”
“I am content,”
“I am lucky,”
“I am rich,”
“I am strong,”
“I am beautiful,”
“I am blessed with a wonderful family,”
“I am blessed ….;”

A Christmas gift for my amazing readers – I have made a list of some “Powerful Daily Affirmations” that you can download it here, print, and pin it, paste it, hang it or keep it at your home, in your office and everywhere you spend most of your time. Read it regularly and experience the power of positive energy in your life and yes don’t forget to share it with our loved ones.

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We wish you Merry Christmas & A Happy New Year.

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Paulo Coelho’s ‘The Alchemist’ Reminds me to Listen to My Heart

The Alchemist

Paulo Coelho’s ‘The Alchemist’

I have read mixed reviews about Paulo Coelho’s most famous novel “The Alchemist” some call it life changing while others find it too simple. For me it is a very much needed reminder to listen to my .

Today we are too busy planning big tasks and conquering battles in every field of our life. Work life balance is become our biggest fantasy or something that has lost its way in the past. In our crazy hectic schedule were very duty is performed like an impossible mission a smooth read like “The Alchemist” takes us on a journey to find the treasure of our life.

It forces us to calm down and look around for messages from the higher self mentioned in the book as omens. We are too busy to run like a hamster on its wheel whole day 5 or 6 days a week and the rest days at the end of the week are spent to regain the energy to fight the never ending war next week then next and so on.

“Remember that wherever your heart is, there you will find your treasure.” — Paulo Coelho (The Alchemist)

Paulo Coelho reminds us to understand where our heart is. What is it longing for? In what does it feel happiness? Where ever your heart takes you, you will find your treasure. This can be actual in form of wealth, relationship, happiness or anything that you earn after finding your calling and respecting your heart’s cravings. Find a peaceful place, stay calm, breath very slowly and deeply, close your eyes and try to quite your mind. Now try to listen to your heart. What do you think it is interested in? What gives it immense happiness and satisfaction? I am sure you know it till now but if you are confused a meditation exercise can help.

“Don’t give in to your fears. If you do, you won’t be able to talk to your heart.” — Paulo Coelho (The Alchemist)

Most of us cannot follow our heart because of fear. Fear of failing or fear of disappointing others, fear of the unknown or fear of moving out of our comfort zone. As a part of being a grownup we lose our child like curiosity, our sense of adventure, become restless and get scared of dreaming big.

As a grownup we try to fit in the surrounding and try to follow some rules even if they do not benefit us. When we suppress our heart desires for a long time it stops communicating with us. Our heart is our only source to connect with the higher self or the wisdom that runs the whole universe. Don’t suppress its voice to make someone else happy.
Your calling or interest is a big part of your destiny. Understand the language of your heart and something magical will happen. Life will become smoother and sweeter. The resistance you face in your daily grind will become weaker making it easier for you to enjoy the journey called life.

“Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams, because every second of the search is a second’s encounter with God and with eternity.” — Paulo Coelho (The Alchemist)

If you are looking for a way to connect to your heart’s desire this book can help you by taking you on a journey you will never forget. You want to go on that adventure again and again and who knows may be it will encourage you to find your own adventure.

20 Best Time Management Tips from Brain Tracy – Part 3

20 Best Time Management Tips from Brain Tracy – Part 3

20 Best Time Management Tips from Brain Tracy – Part 3

In the last two parts (20 Best Time Management Tips from Brain Tracy Part 1 & Part 2) we saw 10 tips that can turn around our life by improving our time management skills. In this post we are going to see some few methods that can help us become more productive and get a firm grip on our success by getting time on our side.

11. Interruptions: We cannot avoid disturbances while we work. The phone will ring several times, someone might like to come and talk to us about something happening in their life or some technical causes that can bring your work to a complete halt. We simply cannot avoid interruptions but we can minimize their impact on our work. We cannot do much about the technical pauses other but Mr. Tracy gives an easy tip to minimize our phone calls or chatting with visitor time. Mr. Tracy tells us to make a habit to stand up for every call or visit. By standing up and talking on the phone you do not get loose track of time and reflect the urgency to keep the call purely work related. You remind yourself to keep it short and also about getting back to work. Do the same with a walk in visitor and that person will not take much of your time.

12. Key Result Areas: While planning for a day’s work one should have a complete awareness about their Key Result Areas. Answering following simple questions can help us understand the important areas or tasks that are vital for us.

. Why do I get paid? (Or) Why am I on the payroll?
. What are my bread and butter?
. What are the goals or core functions of my job?
. Will it critically affect my goal if I miss any of the tasks?

We should give priority to these areas and spend reasonable time on them. If any task that you normally do does not qualify as your Key Result Areas then we should spend less time on them gradually eliminating the task for good.

13. Batching Task: Another very effective tip from Mr. Tracy to manage time. We can effective segregate our tasks into batches. This is taking the To-Do list to the next level. Make batches of tasks that go together. Assign specific time frame for these batches. Like if you like to check your mails after lunch or first thing in the morning then set aside checking mail, answering them and filling up your calendar and related tasks that you do every day for that specific time. Concentrating on one batch of task at a time helps us improve accuracy and reduce panic.

14. Neatness: It is not a secret that organizing your desk or office can improve your productivity. Mr. Tracy tells us that neatness can actually increase productivity by 20 to 30 %. Spend your first few minutes to make your workplace tidy before you start for the day. You can use the simple TRAF method to separate things in your office.

TRAF stands for Toss, Refer, Action and File.

15. Chunks of Time: Just as we make batches of time you can simultaneously separate chunks of time as 60 mins, 90 mins, an hour or 2 hrs. As per the requirement of the specific task assign chunks of time for that task while planning your day. When we allot a concentrated blocks of time for one important task we tend to complete that task within time. This helps us make a very effective use of time.

16. Transition Time: Never forget to keep aside an hour or so for learning. Mr. Tracy tells us if we need to earn more, we need to learn more. Sharpen your skills daily. Make yourself irreplaceable. Learning is forever it should not stop after getting a degree.

17. Telephone: Telephones are mostly interruptions as we discussed in the 2nd part of this series. Limit your time to less important calls. If you have to make calls assign a work batch and chunk of time daily to make calls. Stand while you make calls this will help your body with a much needed stretch.

18. Punctuality: Successful people value time and are punctual. If you agree to reach on a specific time then respect that agreement and it will build up a positive reputation for you. There can be many reasons for being late sometimes though it is always good to be punctual more than being late.

19. Work Simplification: We tend to do the same or similar work over and over again. Our core task is mostly repetitive. When we do the same thing many times we naturally find out ideas that can shorten the time span or simplify a process. Organizing things needed for the job can improve speed.

20. Say No: Many people fail to turn down requests from colleagues. Doing a favor to someone once in a while is good relationship building but if it starts happening frequently then you should not hesitate to say no.

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