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20 Best Time Management Tips from Brain Tracy – Part 2

20 Best Time Management Tips from Brain Tracy – Part 2

20 Best Time Management Tips from Brain Tracy – Part 2

In the last post we discussed 5 tips for Time Management from Brain Tracy. For those who really want to master the art Mr. Tracy has given some more tips. Some or all these ideas can help us improve our productivity.

6. Deadlines and Rewards: Mr. Tracy instructs us to maintain deadlines. It is my personal experience that I work effectively if I have a set time limit to complete a project. Deadlines give us a sense of urgency to finish what we start. It is convenient to prioritize our projects as per their completion date. To make this effective give yourself a nice fully deserving reward after completing a major project with set time frame. Rewards work – carrot is always better than stick.

7. Time Log: If you have trouble completing projects in time. Then to understand your weaker areas it is a highly recommended technique to maintain a record of time spent on every small task you do. With the help of this you can do self analysis and find out where most of your time is used. Mr. Tracy tells us that successful people keep records of time in minutes while others in hours or even days. Start with whatever you are comfortable with. It may feel tedious to record time of every little thing you do but once you find out where most of your time is getting used or wasted you can make some serious changes that can result in achieving most of your goals.

8. Procrastination: Procrastination is my biggest weakness. I struggle the most with starting of any projects especially the important ones. I am learning to get over this using few tips from Mr. Tracy such as understanding the difference between urgent and important and choosing important over urgent whenever possible. As we saw in the part 1 of this post the 80:20 rule can help us in spending more time on important tasks. Developing a ‘Do it Now’ attitude can create a sense of urgency for important tasks.

9. Delegate: Appointing someone to complete a task sounds good. If you are a perfectionist you’ll find it difficult to accept the work done from others until you make some suggestions and changes in the output. This can result in rework and end up losing time. One must learn to let go on little things and focus more on the bigger picture. Don’t fuss on unimportant issues or tasks. Do not waste productive time on things that can be done by someone you can hire. Think through what you want done, pick the right person, check, review, inspect and be on top of it till it is done. Once you find the right person for the right job maintain a good relationship keeping your future projects in mind.

10. Meetings: When I was working in a bank I noticed that the meetings were highly productive whenever someone from the top management was present in it. These meetings had a set agenda with PowerPoint presentations, time spent on every slide of the presentation was predetermined. Everyone had printout of the presentation so no one generally suggested to go back on any previous slide. In absence of some high ranking manager the meetings had a trend to go not as per plan and end up taking more time than scheduled. Why did this happen? Simply because successful people value time and they never allow themselves or others around to waste any. You don’t have to reach to the highest position of your career to get serious about your schedule. Start getting serious of your schedule and you will start climbing the ladder towards success. Do not waste time in meetings, have a purpose for the meeting, meeting is an investment, agenda or list of things to be discussed be present in such a way that it helps you and all the participants.

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20 Best Time Management Tips from Brain Tracy – Part 1

20 Best Time Management Tips from Brain Tracy – Part 1

20 Best Time Management Tips from Brain Tracy – Part 1

Everyone tries to plan their whole year in the first week of the year. I don’t need to tell you about the importance of Time management. Though we all know the importance we still find ourselves struggling to maintain our organizer and catch up with the planner.

Brain Tracy is the well known for his time management training and seminars. He is the success coach who inspires professionals all over the world. I have studied his work and found these 20 tips that can be helpful for us manage time in a better way. Next time when you plan for something big and important or you just try to fill up your daily organizer I hope these tips come in handy.

As per Mr. Tracy ‘Time management is life management,’ he is so right about it. Let’s make this year fruitful with the help of these simple suggestions from one of the world’s best coaches.

1. Goals:

First step to make any success is to be clear about your goal. The finish line should be fixed in your mind. This can be a Personal, Financial or my favorite Self Development Goal.

Brain Tracy gives us a hint to find out our deepest desires. Try to answers following questions without thinking if it is possible or logical or anything negative. The right answers have to be from your heart.

. What one thing you will do if you know you will not fail?
. If you just won a million dollars?
. What will you do if you have just 6 months to live?

Your desires are hidden in the answers you give to above questions. Try using them as inspiration while you make those goals. Give yourself a deadline after all we are trying to tame time.

2. Plans:

Once you are sure about your goal – planning is the next part. We all are good in planning, executing them is the whole another story. Take your time at this step as a solid plan can help us achieve our goals considering all our strengths and weaknesses. As we are trying to get our hold on time management so put strict timelines on every stage of your plan.

3. Priorities:

Priorities make or break our life. Every day we choose to give time and energy to matters that are important to us. Most important issues get more attention. We need to learn how to prioritize everything we do to support our plans and goals. Mr. Tracy recommends keeping a habit of making a list for the weeks work in advance ideally on the weekend before or if you like to make daily plans make the list every night before sleeping. Again timeline is important so try to incorporate it in your list.

4. Analysis:

Prioritizing your to do list can become easier if we apply the 80:20 rule. Say you made a list of 10 tasks now as per the rule find the most important 2 and first finish the top 2. Give 80% of your time to the most important task on your list i.e. the task that can make a direct impact on your goal.
You can remind yourself the importance of time management by asking these questions;

. What is the most valuable use of my time right now?
. Most valuable use of my time?

Important things have values in future. Unimportant things may look useful now.

5. Concentration:

Focus is the key to success. Hence the 5th Time management tip is to concentrate on the single task at hand. I am not a fan of multitasking. Trying to give the complete attention to a single task will assure the success. Focusing our mind on one important thing is always better and must I say easier than juggling many. Concentration reduces rework and saves time so it is a must for time management skills.

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Boys Don’t Cry and They Respect Others

Boys Don’t Cry and They Respect Others

Boys Don’t Cry and They Respect Others

I was delightfully surprised when I first saw the “Boys Don’t Cry” campaign that has uncovered a shameful truth in India. Some men behave like jerk because in a country like India boys are always treated in a very special way. Little spoiled heir of the family who is bought up to believe he is extremely special and the world has to treat him in that way.

Equality means nothing to most of the families where they have full rights to order around the daughter-in-law like an unpaid maid but the son-in-law is treated like a king. Children watch these behaviors and learn from them. Boys subconsciously place themselves as superiors to girls.

Thankfully the conditions are changing. Girls are fighting for their self worth by proving that they are not inferior. The rigid mindset of people is making it a hell of a battle. I am not saying that all men behave badly but those who do make their entire families life miserable and the blame goes to the upbringing of that particular unbearable man.

It is refreshingly delightful to see that this generation of parents are rapidly evolving out of the ‘boy is better than girl’ attitude and are busy concentrating on the child they are blessed with. They want to give the best of everything they can to this child and want to raise him or her right. I just hope that the children get the lesson of treating others with respect as in the generation before us especially some men clearly missed it.

I am going on a different topic today as I recently faced a situation that annoyed me enough to write about it and spread awareness. Working at home has given me a huge advantage of not taking the bus or local train daily and I couldn’t be more thankful. I dreaded the long commutes and would hate those ugly situations when in a bus or any other crowded public place any pervert would try to touch, grab or whatever the low life could possibly do. I hated me more than the pervert if I didn’t harshly respond to such incident.

I am a firm believer of raising your voice and making a scene in such an uncomfortable situations where the pervert pays for his action. People in the crowd or any police officer nearby can definitely help the woman if she gets over the embarrassment and just raises her voice.

After a long time I faced a similar ugly situation and what’s worse it happened in a holy place like Shirdi when I was assisting my elderly in-laws through their way out of the crowded temple after Darshan. A middle-aged man at least 20 years elder than me was standing right behind me in front of the door through which we were suppose to go out of the temple as the security guards told us to moved forward he came too close from behind when he touched me I looked behind and gave him an angry stare. He moved a bit and then again came too close now I knew he was doing it intentionally.

I moved out of the line to the side and in a very I mean very loud voice I told him to either back off and if he gets closer to me one more time I will make sure he gets handled by the police standing nearby. He was surprised and looked like he got kicked in his family jewels. He did not expect that reaction from me. His family way behind the line saw the whole deal and from the look of his wife’s face I was sure he would get the punishment he deserved.

It is absolutely ridiculous that in holy places also some people behave like pigs. I think it is because they simply cannot control their behavior. I want to share this annoying incident because I hope everyone reading this will raise their voice when such incidents happen. Police and authority figures are always happy to help just don’t keep quite. Remember if something like this happens, you are not the one who should be embarrassed or scared. Make it known to the pervert that you will not tolerate any kind of misbehavior and avoid any possible offence. I pray to make the girls fearless and reduce their tolerance level. Girls for your own sake be more spice than sugar.

Mantra for Success – Determination and 3 Steps to Get Determined About Any Desire.

Mantra for Success

Mantra for Success

Birthdays are full of mixed emotions on one hand it’s a celebration on the other it is a realization that we spent one more year of our life. I celebrated my birthday recently and had set some high goals for me to achieve on my lucky day of the year. Things didn’t go as planned and that couldn’t complete my task in time.

I always set high goals or targets and try my best to achieve them. This time some pieces didn’t fall into their place. Am I upset? Well, not anymore but I did learn a lesson. A loud and clear one – “Determination.” This is going to be my mantra for the year.

A determined person sets his mind on the goal and focuses on it like an obsession till s/he achieves it. I confess I lacked determination and hence couldn’t achieve what I planned. This year I want to change the situation. I want to start early, dream big and give all I got to achieve that crazy massive desire I dangle in front of myself.

If you are willing to get on the determination train with me I’ll suggest get a nice role model you can get encouragement from. Someone who has achieved something difficult with sheer will and focus, someone you know personally, someone who can be a positive influence on your journey to achieve a big dream.

“The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack in will.” — Vince Lombardi

My role model is my little sister. Yes it sounds strange to have a younger sibling as a role model but she is an amazing person who can achieve anything she sets her heart to. That’s one person I personally know and admire for her determination.

After some reading I came up with a 3 steps plan to stay on the track to fulfil my goals. Everyone struggles with their journey and these 3 steps can help us get determined about our desires.

Step 1: Clarity:

Where do you want to go? What do you want to achieve? Is that your real desire? Is it achievable? Will that make you happy or fulfilled?

It is important to know the destination before we step out on the journey. Before setting a goal please make sure you answer few questions about it. You do not want to get discouraged half way down the road or worst reach the goal and then realize you did not want that. It is very important that you be true to yourself while trying to achieve a desire. This is something extremely personal. Please do not try to achieve something you are not interested in and just because you want to please someone else. This hardly works.

Clarity is the first step to achieve any goal personal or professional. Any hazy desire just remains a dream. If you want to lose weight; be clear of your ideal healthy weight. Ask an expert about how much your healthy weight should be rather than just comparing yourself to a size zero supermodel.

Being clear gives us a solid goal, a definite destination, something that feels more real more achievable and not just a foggy dream.

Step 2: Cut:

One cannot make changes without changing something we do on a daily basis. Our habits make us what we are. Cutting out bad habits is the second step to stay determined about your goal. We all have bad habits we indulge in things that are harmful to us. We waste our time and energy on things that are not important to us and definitely not important to our desires. Cutting out negative habits and replacing them with positive one is a sure short way to achieve any goal. For example instead of spending an hour on some mindless TV show walking for an hour can help us lose weight so much faster or if that show is something you cannot give up why not do light floor exercises in front of your TV while watching that show.

In this step we should also cut negative people from our life. All the negative people who make our dreams sound impossible. Who makes our journey more challenging than it already is. Who call us crazy for thinking big. Who tells us that we can’t achieve something great. Negative energy from these people can create obstacles in our path. They can bring down our energy.

It is highly advisable to stay away from these people. Avoid them if you cannot physically go away from them then do not let them affect your emotions. Do not argue with them or explain your desires to them. They will never understand and always remember it is not about you. They believe you cannot achieve something great because they cannot achieve it and it makes them jealous to see you try. If you understand this you will know they are upset with themselves and are focusing their anger towards you. If you stay focused on your goal nothing they say or do will affect you.

Step 3. Color:

This is my favorite step. Giving some color to your determination. What does that mean? It means using your creative side of the brain. Imagining your desire or visualizing yourself after you have already achieved your goal. How do you look? How do you feel? How happy are you? What are you doing to celebrate that achievement of your? Are you buying something expensive? Are you going on a holiday with the love of your life? Are you wearing your dream outfit?

I recommend everyone to draw a picture of your desire. Draw yourself after achieving the dream. Get creative, let your inner child go crazy, sketch your dream, fill it with colors have fun. This should be fun not a chore. You are doing this for yourself so be real with it. You don’t have to be an artist for this. Draw just for fun. No one else needs to see this so go crazy with the images and colors.

This step is important as our brain thinks in images. If I say the word ‘APPLE’ you will see a big red juicy apple in your mind not the word or spelling. To make sure our subconscious mind gets on board with our goal draw a picture and give your brain the clear idea of what we are trying to achieve.

Clarity, Cut and Color are used to measure the worth of a diamond. I used them to make my 3 steps because I think we need to make our determination as strong as a diamond to achieve our life’s big goals. Diamonds are chunks of coals that did amazing under pressure. If you are facing pressure in life you should be thankful as it an opportunity to shine.

I am highly grateful for all my struggles and challenges as they have made me more creative and adaptive. I believe in myself more as I stand stronger in front of all the challenges and I believe in the higher powers presence in my life as it has more than once given me a nudge in the right direction.

Stay strong, Stay focused and remember the mantra for success – Determination.

“It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.” — Leonardo da Vinci

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7 Mind Traps That Steal Our Happiness – Trap 3. Comparison


7 Mind Traps That Steal Our Happiness – Trap 3. Comparison

7 Mind Traps That Steal Our Happiness – Trap 3. Comparison

“Comparison is the thief of joy.” — Theodore Roosevelt

It is a smart idea to compare between two or more products before purchasing. Today with so much information available we can easily find ready customized comparisons that help us with our purchase related decisions. Yes I am saying comparison is good but only for material things.

When we start comparing ourselves and our loved ones with others then we open the whole new painful world of misery. I strongly believe comparison steals our happiness. In the first post of this series “7 Mind Traps That Steal Our Happiness – Trap 1. What Other People Think About Me?” We took an example of a mother (Scenario 2) who mistreats her son because “what others think” was very important to her. This adversely affects her relationship with her son for lifetime and she probably never figured out why she has a bad relationship with her child.

Now let’s say this son grew up into a nice young man. He does not tell his mom anything that she may not like and always shows her the rosy picture to avoid any drama. He is good with hiding his troubles as he has practiced it his whole life. The mother is very much concerned about what other think about her and her family and hence constantly keeps looking for praise worthy stories about her family to tell her friends. The burden of these stories part fact part fiction falls on the entire family as they have to act out as per the story and remember every detail so that they do not unveil the truth.

“How much time he gains who does not look to see what his neighbor says or does or thinks, but only at what he does himself, to make it just and holy.” — Marcus Aurelius

Comparison mindset is very similar to “what others think” mindset. In comparison a person constantly compares his life with others or with someone specific. His or hers life’s parameters become limited to the people who are around hence that person never becomes any better than the company he keeps.

This mindset takes a deep toll on all the people emotionally close to him/ her. Everybody in the family is compared with family members of the others. Every property, asset, electronic equipments, furniture, garden, cloths and everything visible to eye is compared with the others and the others have always got it better. Even the family pet is not spared in the disturbing mind game of comparison.

Below are 4 major adverse affects of a comparison mindset:

1. Constant Stress and Unhappiness:
This person is always unhappy because he is always under some or the other peer pressure.

2. Always in Some Kind of Race:
This person feels that he needs to stay ahead of people around him or some one particular to feel superior and hence always tries to compete with others.

3. Jealousy:
The comparison mindset person envies others success and happiness as if others got something better than that means he/ she is falling behind and feels inferior.

4. Goals are Limited to Surroundings:
I know a child who always came first in his class for some reasons he had to switch schools. The first thing his father did after he settled in school was to find out who came first in that class. It was a girl; she always came first in the class and was a model student. She was great in studies and extra curriculum activities. The father proudly told me all about her then said he had an intense talk with his child. He told his kid do whatever you have to do, I’ll get you whatever you need but just make sure you score more than that girl and become the new number one student.

Did I mention this child was in 6th grade? How crazy was that father’s talk? I felt as if he was not raising a child but training a horse for some race. He limited his child’s potentials to the girl’s achievements. His child could be better than that and why compare with one what if some other kid suddenly falls in love with studies and becomes the new number one student will the kid’s priority change to doing better than this new kid now?

What kind of stress are we putting on school kids? There are millions of schools in the world and millions of number one students. How crazy can you go trying to outsmart all these number one students? Why cannot we teach kids to become thinkers and to achieve excellence in the field of his/ her interest? The only comparison we need to do is with our selves, try to break our own records and try to achieve our own goals and dreams.

Your child’s goal may be bigger than anyone in the world. He/ She may be destined to become something greater than anyone in history so why to limit the genius in your child by comparing with the people around you. The creator has made us unique for a reason. The most we can do is become the best possible version of ourselves. Comparison is for non living things that cannot think or dream if you can then please stop comparing with others and start living.

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